91: Thriving After Divorce with Alicia Robertson

In this episode, we chat with Alicia Robertson — founder and CEO of Lemonadelife, author of the Amazon best-selling book Make Lemonade: Thrive Through Divorce by Transforming Your Life, and a motivational speaker. We talk about the dilemmas when going through a divorce, prioritizing ourselves, and why we stay through a relationship despite receiving the bare minimum. She also gives us tips on how to gain confidence after divorce, how to cope with loneliness, and how to determine healthy relationships. [2:43] The Calling “I never knew what it was, and I never have imagined it was my own experience through divorce.” [7:35] Growth Mindset “I felt like I was losing everything, because my whole identity wasn’t what it meant to be in a partnership.” [8:56] Losing Yourself “When you live according to other people’s values, you lose yourself… But figuring what yourself is when you’re there is so hard.” [13:29] Learning  “It’s really being clear about your expectations, and how you’re going to receive as much as you give, without taking the fun and spontaneity out of it.” [17:27] Communicating Your Needs “The easiest way for me to do that is to really have bite size pieces to stay focused on the facts. Is this meeting what is a top 3 needs for me?” [23:10] Bare Minimum “Because even if it’s a little hit of pleasure and connection, to my way of thinking then, was better than nothing, and then you start to settle, right?” [27:24] Isolation “Women are connectors… so when we go through a breakup, it could really be isolating for us.” [31:59] Coping with Loneliness  “For me, it was really exploring deeply why that was something that was feeling stuck and fearful to me, and then shifting into what really was an opportunity to create for myself.” [37:23] Self-Care “We have to be kind to ourselves, you have no idea who’s sitting beside you. It doesn’t mean that you are less them.” [41:06] Confidence after Divorce “When we choose to do these really simple things, the momentum is massive… When we prioritize ourselves, the confidence elevates.” [48:11] Back To The Dating World “It’s different for everybody…What is so important is that you know yourself, what you want and have the courage to stand for it, regardless if that person decides that you’re not for them.” [57:33] Healthy Relationships “I am still discovering what healthy relationships, healthy love looks like, but honestly it can be boring af, so I don’t know, maybe there’s just no perfect answer.” [60:08] Starting New “It’s healthy to grow apart and together…There’s so many interesting and incredible ways to do relationships these days; it’s vulnerable.” [1:05:06] Pressure “There’s so much of a stigma… the second I have an opportunity to date, I included my children.” [1:11:44] Surviving the Divorce “It doesn’t stay here. It doesn’t stay stuck. There’s absolutely is future that is bright and wonderful.”   Follow Alicia on instagram @lemonadelifecoach Connect with Kelly here: Follow Me on Instagram at @chaselifewithkelly Follow Me on TikTok at @iamkellychase Subscribe to My YouTube Channel Join the ChaseLife with Kelly community! Kelly’s Favorites Visit Our Website!