Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel | Book Summary and Analysis | Free Audiobook

Show notes Learn on your terms. Get the PDF, infographic, full ad-free audiobook and animated version of this summary and a lot more on the top-rated StoryShots app: https://www.getstoryshots.com Help us grow to create more amazing content for you! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Don't forget to subscribe, rate and review the StoryShots podcast now.  What should our next book be? Suggest and vote it up on the StoryShots app. Get the free audiobook on Amazon: https://geni.us/mating-free-audiobook Life gets busy. Has Mating in Captivity been gathering dust on your bookshelf? Instead, learn the key insights now. DISCLAIMER: The content is not affiliated or endorsed by the publisher or the author. It is only a complement to the book and is meant for entertainment purposes. It may contain errors and is not a replacement for professional help. Esther Perel’s Perspective Esther Perel is a Belgian-born psychotherapist who specializes in couple therapy in New York City. Perel is fluent in nine languages and serves as an organizational consultant for major companies. Perel’s TED talks have more than 20 million views. She’s a New York Times bestselling author and is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast “Where Should We Begin?”.  StoryShot #1: The Quest for Security Undermines Erotic Vitality Humans seek security and often commit to long-term monogamous relationships based on this need. However, humans also have a drive for adventure and excitement, which is challenging to combine with security. Esther Perel explains that it is impossible to have both at the same time. Desire typically fades as relationships lengthen, and healthy relationships require both desire and security. Intimacy has become burdened with unrealistic expectations, leading to disappointment on both ends of the spectrum. If you drop the idea of perfection, you can create a sense of independence within the relationship and allow it to grow organically. StoryShot #2: Love Seeks Closeness, but Desire Needs Distance StoryShot #3: Communication Is Not the Only Avenue to Closeness Rating and Criticism Some people are critical of Perel’s argument that mating in captivity can be healthy. They don’t find the argument to be coherent, and they believe it is an excuse for bad parenting. It can even be argued that Perel’s acceptance of aggression in the bedroom may lead to domestic violence in some cases. We rate this book 4.2/5. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices