#139 You cantjust slap a bandaid on it -make the process the goal, therein lays your power w/ Dallas

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teleporting misses the experiences Anxiety can often be thought of as your nervous system being aroused. If your nervous system is not aroused, you cannot experience anxiety. Naturally, most of our first reactions to cope with anxiety are by avoiding situations or objects that elicit the feelings. The biggest issue is avoidance prevents your nervous system from habituating. Which in turn allows the anxiety-provoking incident to remain novel and arouse the nervous system. Further, avoidance tends to build as time goes on. 4.07 CATASTROPHIZING BUT ITS UNCOMFORTABLE TO GO THE OTHER DIRECTION AND NOT HAVE THAT NUMBER TO AIM FOR IM UNCOMFORTABLE WITHOUT THAT PILLOW OF AIMING FOR A WEIGHT OR IDENTIFYING WITH WEIGHT LOSS WHAT IS THIS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM – WHAT LIFE IS IT HOLDING YOU BACK FROM The more you are willing to face it, the sooner it begins to subside. By taking these steps, you are empowering yourself for change. Whenever you confront your fear, you gain power while your anxiety loses strength. Whenever you confront your fear, you prove to yourself that you have the ability. This is not easy, but the step that will help set you free. The short term discomfort outweighs the price of not living life to your fullest. BEING THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE MAKE THE PROCESS THE GOAL – ITS HOW YOU GET THERE THAT CHANGES EVERYTHING, TRUE HAPPINESS CAN BE ATTACHED TO GUILT 45min OR IT CAN BE SCARY BECAUSE THEY ARE SO USED TO THAT IDENTITY OF CHASING SOMETHING YOU HAVE THE NARRATIVE STUCK – everything will fall into it until you change the outcome At times the storm can feel too intense to handle. There are all sorts of painful thoughts and feelings whirling around in your body and mind. It can feel like you’re being swept away! During these moments drop the anchor! An anchor doesn’t make the storm go away; it just holds you steady until the storm passes. Whenever we arrive at the point of discomfort thanks to stepping out side of our comfort zone We are met with a choice. Do I change? Or stay the same? What often comes next is a bombardment of thoughts. “I’ll fail” “I don’t feel comfortable” “It won’t work for me” “You’ve always failed this will be the same” Along with these thoughts we often experience anxiety, fear and uncertainty. What’s the best way to not feel them? Avoid it! And not try something new. In the short term this pays off. In the long term it leads you to dead end. The question to ask yourself: Am I willing to feel discomfort in order to better my life? Stop trying to do things so perfect that you forget to start – or don’t be so focused on what you fear and future catastrophizing that you fail to even make a move @definebysd