#155 Thinking its ONLY 'eat less move more", "calories" - keeps you STUCK - DIG DEEPER w JEB JOHNSTON

How what you believe about yourself and your identity can shape your actions. You will fail Being in the present, work on the now. Not on the past. That is there, it will show its self up. But its in the past. Facts from narrative. Separate the story Someone always does something to us Stop playing the victim. What is the real narrative? – we usually have images in our mind that are better than they really were. Could the potential of just anticipating failure or even just the way we see ourself feed that. Ownership and getting real with the reality of the lifestyle and how yoru environment and identity shape it. Like How does it make you show up better – Ou don’t realise this until you actually start doing the things and paying attention to all this and actually consistently doing it and checking in with yourself People don’t slowdoen for this Stop trying to find a way around what you know to be true. You will have to change to see change. You will have to step up and put in work. And that means weekends too. DBT is all about 2 things being opposing but coexisting – But the KEY HERE IS THE DESIRE TO MOVE FORWARD AND BE OUR BEST SELF. BUT WE DIDN’T START THIS WAY - How you do one thing is how you do everything take away and replace – you just want to break the cycle. Its okay to do it – its okay to allow it to repeat for now, we are just practicing the awareness and adding in Overwhelm will always be there until we can actually break it down But you need to be willing to. And that’s why writing is so important and putting it on paper – because you can keep repeating it. You can keep recognising the same thing – you will lean more about yourself. You will grow in the process. You learn what not to do. You have these roadblocks on the way to where you WANT to go. Put them in place for what you don’t want. Via strength test Relationship with self. “If we nail our diet 80% of the time we are golden.” Maybe you tasted a few times too many while making dinner? Finished the kid’s plates while cleaning up? Not to say any of it is inherently devils work but taking ownership of the situation at hand - us as coaches can only do so much but we don't know what we don't know when things like this are happening. Do we want to be right or do you want to be effective – give up being right If we can manipulate our environment, increase our movement independent of exercise, and manage our emotions (stress) we are gonna knock down a lot more pins. Or we can continue to say the words “calorie deficit” and turn our backs on the very things that are waiting to destroy any chance of that happening. We’ve all heard the phrase “make the hard thing easy”. A common statement I hear is, “I’ll do better next week”. While that is an awesome sentiment, we all should strive for better, it’s also somewhat meaningless. What will you do today to be better? What exactly? What specific actions will you take that will differentiate today from yesterday? Set yourself up for success by being specific with your change. Set yourself up by acting with intent. Don’t let your goals fall away for lack of focus. Make them real by making them into action steps. @jebstuartjohnston foodonthemind.com/free-guide