#188 - Knowing deep down it’s time for change, but still repeating the same painful, exhausting cycle/ Dillon Phaneuf

@dillonphaneuf @transformxruby __ Many people know deep down it’s time for a change, yet you repeat the same habits is such a painful and exhausting cycle. But women fall into this more often then anything CONFIDENCE AND WHY THIS IS SO IMPORTANT ----- You lose confidence when you try to take 5 not 4 steps. Males can accidently get jacked Women are more susceptible - hormones etc Not really progressable metrics (scale): 1 - isnt linear and 2 - its progress to a point and then what do you do next - and if you only want it to go down - theres so many things that go sacrificed because the scale is so volatile to things that arent fat mass And if you arent really over weight - the ups and downs happen alot more. Don't sacrifice the future for the instant gratification Overtraining is relative - because over training itself isnt a thing Under recovery is training results and adaptation depends on lifestyle and most women are high achievers in other areas, and if not that - the internal state isnt stable. WHY You need to start seeing nutrition and exercise as your #1 thing This is why you need to find joy outside of the food and the training which is where the self work comes in and it makes it easier to do the things you need to do and only enhance your results. They cant be optional if you want a high quality life - You cant optimize your physique and losing fat and building lean muscle if you are ignoring health markers because they impact the whole process The health markers matter because they are a stress on your body and if they arent in a good place you wont build muscle or burn fat well - and you wont be able to have a healthy metabolism where you CAN eat more food and you CAN tolerate more carbs without negative side effects - ___________ People are trying to chase these end results these points in time - time line  - they think it will help them so much more but the thing is that the process is the thing that creates what we want because we can never be happy at any destination if we werent happy in the journey there - its like a road trip with the family - you fight the whole way - hate the whole trip. You get there and youre a miserable bitch - if you continue rewarding the next step - the process - “Holy shit i can actually do that”  developing self confidence in yourself is #1 because most women don't believe they can because of all their past failures.. STOP JUSTIFYING the same stories taht arent serving you. [[ get in the ring ]] -- peaks and valleys _________________ Youre following a map Everyone has a different location, starting point, obstacles, and you cant see ahead all the time - there are obvious road blocks and land marks and things you know will pop up but theres alot more that may come up that maps don't take into consideration bc society and environment and politics has evolved bs the old biology of the map North is north - you know where north is but the destination still may not be clear because you started the journey with a poor prejourney and expectations and knowledge and experience but the more you travel the more you realise what the read focus is which isnt a bummer goal or a what but how you want to feel, show up and how you want your life, mind, body, social life and emotional stability to do.