#216; GET results without falling into another diet cycle. Skills to live your life by design without obsession, anxiety & overwhelm/Josh Hillis

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I can commit to too much for a short time but not a long time You want to make progress but you also have all these other things we will put in  We have never done anything  Realise the cycle that has always looked the same  Actually realise it  That should be painful enough that you don’t want to go down that route anymore Working on these skills will be hard at first Its uncomfortable because its new But its different than the drama of crashing and burning Be done enough with the diet cycle of failure that you need to be willing to embrace  @joshuahillis @transformxruby How I need to be,  What I need to do Flexibility to a way of being “look different in different situations”  NO "For others to like me" Situationally dependent  Our values are connected to other people Looking good was the way to look good  Is it possible to accept myself and change Work on myself and have goals “We don’t often feel like it “ Practice in making mistakes  How? Values list  Snacking and why behind it  What is it about the family  Its it about quantity of food or sharing food with them  You do need some self care  MONEY THING of all the same thing at once Instead, it’s time for you to do the important work of building eating skills, dealing with perfectionism, and clarifying your values around food. It’s a healthier approach, a more effective approach, and an approach that get you the weight loss results you want for a lifetime. --- different tracks – This is why structure and discipline is so important  Eating behavior change is hard. We often won't "feel like it."⁠ ⁠ Is it possible to accept myself and change Work on myself and have goals Driving – metaphor  TOTALLY BALANCED MEAL This is why structure and discipline is so important  LIVE YOUR LIFE BY DESIGN TRAINING WHEELS Emotions  Checking in with me is hard  I'm going to write that down  What do I feel in my body  Empty hollow feeling in your stomach  Shoulders tight or loose?  Breathing right now? Are there any feelings youre having that you can put some words around Where do you see they stem from when  How do you deal with the night eating Happiness for me is freedom for myself from being a people pleaser and getting back my sense of self worth and loving my family without conditions. I want to feel peace in my core and learn resilience from difficulties and stress    The better people are at differentiating how they feel – the better they are at coping with the things  You are really self aware – you know you are doing things to please other people You got perspective and it is really useful So now you can manage it – you are in control