#328; What is progress - Without THIS you cant live your life the way you want NOT live a life that you love/ Stu Graham

https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/UJhNkPTF6Ib Resilience is the real flex This is where people can be a bottle neck to themselves in not being patient in this process Resistance is not bad What people think they need to do to get to their goal is rarely reality And how most advice out there sets people up to yoyo or be Start action and then you get motivation but no Motivation needs to be there and we do have it. Thats why you want change. Its just we put it into the wrong places with the wrong ideas of Meet ourselves where we are YIN x YANG Discipline isnt bad, its just how its used Its not the tool but how its used You wont always enjoy it but itll come. Kind of like my running. And then i started loving the hate for it for how it makes me feel The reason why i have confidence and where i am now is because i do something hard more often than not constantly chasing more thinking that will make them happy Or just checking boxes Where does the relationship with our bodies and food come into this and our past stories are MOTIVATION…. How relying on it sets you back and thinking you need more willpower and discipline sets you back. They are parts of the process no doubt, but how we use them is all wrong We cant change what we arent aware of Sense of self is more than one thing, we are many dimensions of self We are too busy trying to make a masterpiece of our bodies and fix that stuff over making our lives our masterpiece, we are forgetting how all of that is the soil on which we are doing the gardening of our habits, actions and selves Visual accommodation You cant think yourself out of a thinking dilemma or fix something with the same mindset that created it You cant see the box from the inside, or the storm from the inside You question everything except that which you absolutely believe to be true Becoming more aware in itself is progress Emotions We arent rational humans Fat loss is never the happy end point. Its part of the process but a goal usually as a means to a greater goal that has more holding power - because yes some people have fat to lose and many may need to lose a decent amount for health - but its rarely ever a holding force for results beacuse we can easily sabotage our way back to where we were before or worse What is progress - Without THIS you cant live your life the way you want NOT live a life that you love Dj board dials They may make amazing music at times but at other times just sound like noise The more you try to force, pressure, berate, control.. The less you actually have You can get all the progress, make amazing changes, but never even realise it because you didnt work on the relationship with your body image and self or do the inner work You didnt look into your actual LIFE UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS Yes health seeking but it seems like people think that that and body goals are 2 different things They arent 2 different things its health AND physique I like focusing on performance. Health drives performance. Fuel and nourishment drives it. Respecting youself improves it And performance is also perf in life → physique Realities of progress. The diminishing returns as you advance Measures of progress that matter more as physique change is slow How the scale sets us back and many others back exhaust ourselves with more stress which further sends us backwards vs asking for help and realising old keys wont open new doors I have a saying that “youll never get results with any new approach or coach if you keep the same mindset as all the prior times you failed or fell off or quit”[ Lets dig in Again unrealistix expectations Cognitive distortions in your journey and how chasing a former you holds you back How you can make huge changes in a small amount of time and what those look liek in reality - and how not seeing those as the biggest pieces of the transformation puzzle will hold you back long term because nothing else is permanent without it