#379; Stu Graham; The missing link to your goals. Self-trust & how to get lasting results that feel good!

Ever feel like slowing down is a luxury you can’t afford? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dig deep into why we resist taking a step back and how it’s sabotaging our goals, relationships, and overall happiness. From the myth of finishing the to-do list to the power of finding joy in the mundane, we’ll explore how rest and alignment with your values can actually fast-track your progress. We’re breaking down the barriers keeping you stuck in overdrive and giving you tools to rebuild trust with yourself, embrace discomfort, and prioritize what really matters. Tune in for relatable truths, actionable steps, and a path to more clarity, peace, and results without running yourself into the ground. The Shortcut You’ve Been Avoiding: How to Align Rest, Values, and Results • Trusting Yourself on a Plan • Trust develops when you set realistic expectations and honor your commitments. Many struggle because they overload themselves, leading to self-doubt. Reflecting on small, consistent wins can help rebuild self-trust. • The Power of Slowing Down • Many resist slowing down, fearing it hinders progress. However, rest allows reflection and better alignment with goals. Reframe rest as a productive tool to achieve clarity and reduce burnout. • Exploring Resistance to Change • Resistance stems from fear of losing control or regressing. Identify the source of this fear by asking: "What am I afraid will happen if I slow down or change my approach?" • The Myth of Completing the To-Do List • The idea that everything must be finished before you can rest is a false narrative. Shifting focus to enjoying the process prevents perpetual dissatisfaction. • Pleasure as a Gateway • Finding joy in daily experiences can enhance well-being. Whether it's the crunch of icy grass or a beautiful sunrise, small pleasures can align your actions with your desired emotional state. • The Role of Values • Values guide actions but evolve over time. Identifying patterns in your behavior can help clarify your true values, leading to more aligned decisions and fulfillment. • Perfectionism and Cognitive Dissonance • Striving for perfection often leads to misalignment with values and burnout. Acknowledge when expectations clash with reality and adjust for sustainable progress. • Experimentation Over Fear • Fear of failure or regression hinders experimentation. Trusting yourself to adapt if things go wrong can lead to significant growth and confidence. • Aligning Actions with Values • Misalignment between actions and values creates discomfort. Regularly assess whether your choices reflect your values and make adjustments as needed. • Meeting Yourself Where You Are • Starting from where you are, not where you think you "should" be, fosters progress. Acknowledge and accept your current state without judgment. • Judgment from Self and Others • Everyone experiences judgment, but learning to self-soothe can reduce its impact. Building self-compassion is key to overcoming fear of criticism. • The Drainers and Energizers in Life • Identifying what energizes or drains you can help prioritize meaningful activities. Regular reflection on these factors supports better emotional and physical health. • The Process vs. the Outcome • Focusing on the process instead of fixating on outcomes helps maintain motivation and prevents disappointment. • Taking Ownership • Feeling "stuck" often stems from avoiding discomfort. Embrace small steps toward change, even when it's challenging, to regain a sense of control. @stu.graham.s25 @transformxruby PLEASURE PROJECT