103 - The Winner's Triangle: How To Escape the Drama Triangle

Anger Secrets - A podcast by Alastair Duhs - Sundays

Do you often feel trapped in the same patterns of conflict with your partner?Have you noticed that your relationship sometimes feels like a game in which someone always blames, rescues, or feels like the victim?Do you want to break free from toxic relationship dynamics and create a calmer, happier and more understanding relationship?If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you.In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs introduces the Winner’s Triangle, a powerful model created by Australian psychologist AC Choi, as a solution to break free from the Drama Triangle. Alastair details how the Winner's Triangle's three roles—Assertive, Vulnerable and Caring—contrast with the negative roles of Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer in the Drama Triangle. Throughout the episode, Alastair provides practical examples and guidance on how to shift roles effectively to foster healthier, more respectful communication. This episode encourages listeners to practice these roles to transform their relationships and promotes resources.For further support on anger management visit at AngerSecrets.com.Key TakeawaysUnderstanding the three roles of the Winner's Triangle: Assertive, Vulnerable and Caring.How to identify when you're falling into the Drama Triangle roles and strategies to shift into the healthier roles of the Winner's Triangle.Practical examples of how to apply the Winner's Triangle in everyday situations to improve relationship dynamics.Resources MentionedVisit angersecrets.com Book a free 30-minute anger assessment call at angersecrets.com/free-callWatch a free anger management training at angersecrets.com/trainingTime Stamps00:00 Introduction: Breaking Free from Toxic Relationship Patterns00:31 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast01:28 Introducing the Winner's Triangle02:38 Understanding the Roles in the Winner's Triangle05:20 Applying the Winner's Triangle in Your Relationship06:57 Example: Using the Winner's Triangle in Everyday Situations08:35 Conclusion