Moving Beyond Gridlock: How Couples Can Find Their Way Back

Join Eli and Janelle Althen for a transformative conversation on relationships, attachment, and the power of connection. From the pitfalls of 'waiting for the other person to make the move' to the importance of making 'bids for connection,' this episode is packed with actionable insights. Whether you've been in a relationship for 3 months or 30 years, you'll walk away with strategies to foster a deeper emotional connection with your partner.Books Mentioned:"Talk to Me Like You Love Me"Discussed as a helpful tool for couples to find the right words for repairing a relationship. This book provides various statements to use in different situations to bring couples back to a more peaceful and understanding state.Key Takeaway: Great for finding the right words when you're feeling disconnected or in the middle of an argument.Work by John GottmanAlthough a specific book by John Gottman wasn't mentioned, his techniques were discussed, especially the one where he writes down what his partner says in an argument to better understand and reflect on it.Key Takeaway: Focuses on scientific approaches to understanding marital relationships and emphasizes the importance of active listening.Topics Covered:Understanding the cycles of disconnection and reconnection in relationships.The science of attachment and how it affects adult relationships.The role of desire and intention in maintaining a healthy relationship.How to break out of gridlocked states in relationships.The difference between passive and active love.The importance of understanding your partner’s "owner's manual."The impact of childhood attachments on adult relationships.Additional Resources:Techniques for structured conversations in relationships.Recommendations for practicing intentional acts of connection.