family scapegoating abuse part 1: the black sheep

back from the borderline - A podcast by mollie adler

Join me for part one of a 3-part series exploring the hidden complexities of the “scapegoat” or “black sheep” role within dysfunctional family dynamics. Family scapegoats start as innocent children or adolescents who bear the weight of projected family trauma. In this series, we’ll journey through the origins and consequences of scapegoating abuse, both in early childhood, as well as its lingering impact in adulthood. Together, we’ll explore how these experiences shape our emotional landscapes and relationships. By working with and integrating the concepts covered, you’ll discover valuable insights into breaking free from this suffocating role, allowing you to embark on a journey towards healing and liberation. By the end of this series, it is my sincere hope that you can begin to unmask the layers of this covert form of psycho-emotional abuse, and learn to reclaim your narrative, rewriting a story of resilience and transformation beyond this dysfunctional label that was never yours to begin with. TIME STAMPS SCAPEGOATING SERIES PART 100:00 – 09:21: What are the roles in dysfunctional family systems?09:21 – 16:47: Hester Prynne in The Scarlet Letter as a scapegoat archetype16:47 – 21:36: How toxic families choose a child to scapegoat21:36 – 26:35: My personal experience as a family scapegoat26:35 – 32:55: Signs you might be the family scapegoat32:55 – 38:28: The multigenerational aspects of family scapegoating abuse (FSA)38:28 – 41:58: The abusive nature of family scapegoat abuse41:58 – 44:36: Wounds caused by family scapegoat abuse44:36 – 48:11: Why scapegoating abuse often goes unnoticed48:11 – 54:30: The dehumanizing nature of family scapegoating abuse54:30 – 01:05:21: The scapegoat child’s role in narcissistic family systems01:05:21 – 01:11:16: The warped stories and narratives in toxic family systems01:11:15 – 01:15:19: The physical, psychological and emotional effects of scapegoating PREMIUM PORTION: GHOSTING01:15:19 – 01:41:03: Listener voicemail from Austin + my personal reflections and experiences with ghosting in relationships01:41:03 – 01:46:22: What the research says about ghosting01:46:22 – 02:11:00: The “anti-ghosting” trend on TikTok and how to end relationships WITHOUT ghostingEnjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.