Episode 268: From Competition to Collaboration: Caroline Miller on How Women Can Support Each Other to Achieve Success

Welcome to a powerful episode that dives deep into the world of grit, goal-setting, and uplifting female relationships. Our guest, Caroline Miller, is no stranger to overcoming challenges, including overcoming bulimia during her teenage years, which was fueled by the immense pressure she faced due to her family's emphasis on excellence. In this captivating conversation, Caroline shares her insights on why women sometimes struggle to support each other, the impact of "mean girls," and how to identify a "frenemy." Caroline's expertise draws from extensive research and real-world experience, spanning from Wall Street to prestigious schools. She offers a fresh perspective on self-promotion and reveals the hidden lessons we can learn from a unique tribe of women in southwest China. Join us for this inspiring and eye-opening journey as we explore the intricacies of female dynamics, tackle the challenges of mean girls and frenemies, and unlock the secrets to becoming empowering leaders. Don't miss out on this opportunity to transform your relationships and elevate your potential. Visit gobeyondbarriers.com where you will find show notes and links to all the resources in this episode, including the best way to get in touch with Caroline. Highlights: [02:55] Caroline’s background [08:08] Leveraging your networks [17:57] Women supporting women [22:30] Realizing who will support you [27:55] Self-promotion [34:47] Unconscious envy of others and pruning your friends [39:08] Lightning round questions Quotes: “To stop dying alone, we have to start living together.” – Caroline Miller “If you amplify the good news, success, or big idea of another woman, and do it with witnesses, that’s when there is real evidence that you are that woman who walks the walk.” – Caroline Miller “When someone you know gets something you wish you had, overcome that twinge of envy and say, ‘That’s great, tell me more.’” – Caroline Miller "Set hard goals, overcome obstacles, and help other people to accomplish goals."– Caroline Miller "Most people think that we're going to see time travel before we see gender parity. That's insane."– Caroline Miller Lightning Round Questions: What book has greatly influenced you? - “Little Women” by Louisa May Alcott and“CEO Excellence: The Six Mindsets That Distinguish the Best Leaders from the Rest” by Carolyn Dewar, Scott Keller, and Vikram Malhotra What is your favorite inspiring quote or saying? - "You can’t keep what you don’t give away.” What is one word or moniker you would use to describe yourself? - Fun What is one change you've implemented that made your life better? - When I hear about another woman’s success, I’ve trained myself to be happy and enthusiastic about it, and now it’s the most natural behavior in my life. What power song would you want playing as you walk out onto a stage? - "I Am Woman” by Helen Reddy About Caroline Miller: Caroline is one of the world’s leading positive psychology experts on Goals & Grit TM. Caroline is passionate about helping people get more grit, achieve their goals, and find happiness. She’s spent more than 30 years helping individuals, leaders, and companies cultivate grit, one of the top indicators of success and flourishing. Caroline is the author of eight books, including global bestsellers Getting Grit, Creating Your Best Life, and My Name is Caroline. Live Happy Magazine named Creating Your Best Life one of the top 10 goal-setting books ever published and Getting Grit one of the 10 books that would change your life in 2017. Lifehack ranked Creating Your Best Life as the #1 goal accomplishment book of all time in 2019. Caroline’s work has been featured in hundreds of magazines, newspapers, and other media worldwide including BBC World News, The New York Times, The Washington Post, NBC, NPR, and CNN. Angela Duckworth, the winner of the 2013 MacArthur Genius grant for her research on grit, said of Caroline: “I don't know anybody who has thought more than [Caroline] about how to apply the scientific research on grit and achievement to our own lives!" Caroline has worked with clients worldwide, including Morgan Stanley, lululemon, The Wharton School/UPENN, RE/MAX, Booz Allen, Young Presidents’ Organization, Harvard Law School, Blizzard Entertainment, ScanSource, Coldwell Banker, and Swisse Wellness. Caroline has a Masters of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, and she graduated magna cum laude from Harvard University. Links: Website: https://www.carolinemiller.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carolineadamsmiller/