#56 - Boundaries Quick Tips # 7: When You Didn't See That Boundary Coming . .

This episode is a quick bit of boundary truth! A listener wrote in asking about what to do when a very hard boundary comes seemingly out of nowhere. Tune in to learn what to do when you just didn't see that boundary coming, and get a refresher about non-negotiable boundaries. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #56: We discuss what non-negotiable boundaries are and why they present a problem for open communication. Learn the two types of non-negotiable boundaries and why that knowledge directs the response one should have in moving forward with another person in communication. What is a knee-jerk reaction and how to determine if this represents a non-negotiable boundary or simply an automatic response to a situation? Why you should simply accept another person's hard-stop boundary, even when you think it's extreme. What is your "communication dance" when it comes to unexpected boundaries, and what part do you play? How does this affect your relationship?  Highlights from Episode #56: Welcome back to the show! Listen in for quick tips on what to do when a hard boundary comes out of nowhere. [00:40] Hear the listener's question that inspired this episode. [01:45] How to address non-negotiable boundaries. [05:25] The two types of non-negotiable boundaries. [06:19] How to address a “stash and blow” pattern when it comes to creating and establishing boundaries. [09:53] Why knee-jerk reactions shouldn’t necessarily cause arguments. [11:30] Change is difficult and painful. Why we try to change others rather than ourselves. [13:23] Vicki gives her recommendations to the listener. [15:15] Build trust in the fact that all limits will be respected. [17:20] Disengage from the dance to gain clarity in your life and relationship. [17:45] Changes require support. [19:29]   Links and Resources: Vicki Tidwell Palmer Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell Palmer 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode 6: What to Expect When You Set Boundaries (+Non-Negotiable Boundaries) Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode 14: Taking Action! (Step 4 of the 5-Step Boundary Solution) Beyond Bitchy Podcast | Episode 49: Quick Tips #5: 4 SIgns Your Boundaries May Be Too Harsh