006: Asking For Help

A while back, one of Nick’s poker players was struggling. This player was performing well, but relied on support and handouts from friends because his parents didn’t approve of his career. He spent months hovering between being in a financially stable place and never quite getting there. When he consulted Nick, the player expressed frustration that he was going to have to go back to a toxic home life in London. On the call, Nick rejected this player’s belief that he had no friends, challenged him to find a way to use his network to move out on his own, and put himself out there. Within one minute of asking our group chat to help him, another player invested in his future performance and gave him the freedom to rent his own apartment. Almost everyone has trouble asking for help on the come up. We think it makes us weak or entitled in some way. The reality is that asking for help is one of the biggest differentiators between a successful entrepreneur and the rest of the pack. In this episode, we document some different case studies on the topic and provide insights with how you can go about asking for help more effectively on your own journey. Whether you’re a poker player or an entrepreneur trying to navigate bigger business, this episode is jam packed with win rate for building out your network in a powerfully vulnerable way. Key Takeaways Why we’re all so afraid of asking for help - and why we shouldn’t be. Why asking the right people for the right help makes all the difference. How Nick’s problem player positioned his ask for help in a way that both benefited him and anyone who chose to help him. Why requests for help sent via direct message from strangers almost never go answered - and why the people who read these messages often think the senders are completely deluded. Why people who are at rock bottom and think they have nothing to offer often have more resources (and more to give) than they think they do. Tools you can use to assess your values in a meaningful way. Get Access to the Show Notes To get access to the full show notes, including all the resources mentioned during the interview, visit BeyondPoker.com/6 Check Us Out On:  BeyondPoker.com Wayne Yap on Instagram Nick Howard on Instagram Nick Howard on Twitter PokerDetox.com Rate & Review If you enjoyed today’s episode of Beyond Poker, hit the subscribe button in Apple Podcasts (or wherever you listen) so future episodes are automatically downloaded directly to your device. You can also help by providing an honest rating & review over on Apple Podcasts. Reviews go a long way in helping us build awareness so that we can impact even more people. THANK YOU!