Song Lopez: Living Purposefully

Song Lopez had a successful career as a celebrity makeup artist for TV and film, which came to a halt in 2020 when the pandemic wiped out production. During that time, she embraced the solitude and got to know herself. She learned to live in the moment and remembered why it's so important to play. She's created a new identity for herself, one that evolves with her as she continues to grow. In this episode, we discuss how she turned makeup into a business by developing her own custom makeup line, but also why she wants to be known for more than what she does. Who she is is more important. She explains what it means to live a life of purpose, on purpose. Now, as an intuitive life coach, she helps others heal their traumas and move confidently towards their goals. We talk about changing narratives, taking accountability for our lives, and why the hardest job we'll ever have is the work we do on ourselves. Connect with Song @makeupbysong Connect with me on your favorite platform: https://pods.link/aardvarkgirl -- 00:43 And I thought, people do this for a living? I lived in Washington. I wasn't living in LA, in Hollywood, where this was normal. I wanted to be a veterinarian or a firefighter, teacher, you know, helping that way. 03:07 Makeup artists today have to be ready to produce things being thrown at them at all times. I always say you have to be a quick thinker. You have to be able to calm the talent, build them up, make them feel amazing, you know, and still make the client happy. 07:28 So we are absorbing, as makeup artists, a lot of the insecurities, the stress, energetically. So I always say when I get home, I'm just drained because I've taken on all their anxiety and insecurities, and then I'm using all my energy to be like, “You're amazing. There's a reason why you got this job.” and reframe their narrative that they've got going on in their head at that moment. 08:42 When I mentor makeup artists, I’m like, look, it's not about you. This isn't about you. This isn't about how you feel about something. It's really about coming together as a team. 11:03 When you look at kids who are a part of a team, the ones that are coachable are going to be the ones that actually do better, that work well with people, that are a team player.  11:52 Being an entrepreneur and a freelancer, I'm always looking for opportunities to build a business in any fashion. 15:19 I really don't like to be known as just a makeup artist. I like to be known as somebody who does makeup, and somebody who's knowledgeable about it, and has their own makeup line. But as far as being that as my identity, that was the biggest thing of my growth is to not monetize on my soul, on my life, and being like, that's my identity. I think being a makeup artist should be something that should be looked at as like, this is what I do. But then who I am goes deeper than that. 16:55 I am in so much gratitude for the pause that 2020 brought. Under those circumstances I decided to take and invest 100% into my personal growth. Let's go back to playing through the day. Instead of looking at dishes being daunting, I started putting music on and I started reframing that narrative. I get to do the dishes. I get to, not I have to. There's something that happens in your body, and in your mind, when you say “I have to do this.” There's a resistance. But when you say, “I get to,” it feels better. 23:54 I realized that I was constantly running from myself, whether it was jumping from relationship to relationship, like you had said, or over shopping. I was drinking it away. I was eating it away. I was relationshipping it away. I was sleeping it away, whatever it was. But once you take and go inside, and you start figuring out who you are, it's a game changer. Nobody can tell you who you are.  26:55 I used to call it my imaginary dinner table. I would invite everyone over to my dinner table. Anybody could sit at my table. I mean, they were backstabbers. They were jealous people