040: What You Say About Your Partner (Behind Their Back) Matters

We’ve all been in situations where we’ve complained about our partner to our friends.



This is kind of inevitable once in a while, but we really believe it shouldn’t be a habit.  On today’s episode, we talk about the impact that complaining about your partner has on your relationships, friendships, and your own mindset.



In this episode, we talk about:



How complaining can make you feel more negative about your partner in generalThe difference between believing your partner is being (a temporary state) a jerk and believing your partner “is” (a permanent character) a jerkRecognizing when you’re complaining just for relief or affirmationHow your complaining can affect your friends’ relationshipsTalking to your friends about your spouse in a way that is actually looking for help



#ConfidentCouples challenge:



Sara’s challenge: Say something nice about your partner to your friends.



Bud’s challenge: Catch yourself the next time you start complaining about your partner, or rephrase the complaint into a “help me” statement.



Mentioned in this episode:



Mr and Mrs Smith movie— therapy sceneGreat times to address complaints with your partner: The Ritual and Life Planning Dinner



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