Practical Tips for Disciplining Children Who Have Experienced Trauma

How do you discipline kids who have experienced trauma? We provide 5 tips and then discuss 5 challenging parenting situations. Our expert is Karen Doyle Buckwalter, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Registered Play Therapist and Supervisor, and co-author of "Raising the Challenging Child".In this episode, we cover:1.     The Relationship Bank Account Spend effort building your relationship with your child so that you have banked “good will” for when you need to say no or set a firm rule. Ideas for making quick and easy deposits:Praise efforts, successes, helpfulness, their unique essence—big and small.Let the child choose whenever possible. Look for compromises.Make more deposits than withdrawals.Magic “rule” 5 positive comments to every 1 negative.Difference between making a deposit and spoiling your child.Sideswipe instead of confront. 2.     Respond to What is Beneath the Behavior Behavior is a reflection of a need. It’s a symptom.Strategies for digging deeper into what is underneath the behavior.3.     Reexamine Your ExpectationsSee your child for who she is.4.     Balancing Structure and NurtureHow does structure lead to feelings of safety and why is this often misunderstood when parenting children with a history of trauma?Choose your battles: choose to ignore some behaviors.5.     Share Power to Gain PowerSpecific Behaviors:TantrumName calling and teasingHandle attention seeking behaviors.LyingSexualized Behavior and PlayThis podcast is produced  by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:·         Weekly podcasts·         Weekly articles/blog posts·        Resource pages on all aspects of family building Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily