Dadvengers #16 - Stu Oakley

Dadvengers Podcast Episode 16 - Stu Oakley (SomeFamilies Podcast) This weeks guest is dad to three children, one half of the award winning podcast 'Some Families' and an amazing advocate for equal parenting.  Stu talks about all things parenthood, from the overloaded adoption system and how that affects the children in it, to the impact of gendered language on all parents. Host Nigel also delved into therapeutic parenting - what it means, and how it's different it is in reality to the training! The pair also talked about the mental health impact of the lockdowns on Stu and his family, and how they worked as a team to overcome those issues.  Time Codes 2:16 - "I was going to be a dad one day... I pictured that growing up" Stu on how he always knew he wanted to be a dad, and his three children. 07:29 - Stu's advise for people looking at the different routes to become a family. - "You've just got to feel what's right for you" 09:57 - "We got an email saying there was another sibling." We delve into how Stu's third child was a welcome surprise addition to their family. 12:16 - "We were really angry... He'd spent two weeks in hospital completely on his own." - Stu and his husband found out their kids baby sibling had been in care for 5 month due to a human error in an overworked system. 17:09 - "Jon is very patient... I am more impulsive." - Stu tells us about the impact of having kids on his relationship with his husband Jon - and their parenting styles 20:39 - Talking about Stu's childhood and how his dad is a great role model.  26:00 - "I felt like I was doing a bad job at work and a bad job parenting..." - Stu opens up about how difficult the lockdowns were for him and how he looks after his mental health. 30:13 - Stu on how everyone needs to find someone to talk, and how we all need to learn to ask for support. 34:43 - "Having an outlet where you can speak to other parents is so important." - Stu on how important it is to have a good parenting network around you. 38:09 - Stu tells us all about therapeutic parenting. How important this is, and why it can put a lot of pressure on parents. 42:48 - "The language we use around parenting is so un-inclusive sometimes." Stu chats about the hyper-gendered language around parenting. 51:46 - Parenting Superpower!  Don't forget to subscribe to be first to hear new episodes. And if you want more of our parenting content make sure you're following us on Instagram & Facebook too! Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.