015: Sex, Shame, and Orgasms with Sex & Relationship Coach Alexa Martinez

How’s your sex life? If you immediately felt a little awkward with that question, tune in to this episode with Sex and Relationship Coach, Alexa Martinez. Despite being raised in the deep south and having a Catholic upbringing, Alexa helps couples from all over the world feel happier, more connected, and empowered through sex.  In this episode, we talk about sexuality, shame, female orgasms, and how you can start having better sex. Episode Highlights:  3:24 Alexa’s Catholic upbringing and her early career on luxury cruise ships 5:00 How Alexa leaned into sex as an avenue of personal development 9:00 The problem with sex education in America 11:35 Alexa’s strategy to repair sex education 14:09 An unorthodox approach to transforming your understanding of sex 16:04 Mine and Alexa’s experiences with shame around sex  19:27 The Sex and Love Academy: A holistic healing journey 26:30 Prioritizing your partner and your love over everything else 28:41 Cultivating a love that’s different from the one you saw growing up 32:55 How to keep sex spicy in a long term relationship 34:52 A framework for cracking open the conversation around sex in your relationship 37:25 How you can express your desires with the “Want, Will, Won’t” tool 42:08 The talk that you need to have with your partner to keep intimacy alive 45:46 A non-intimidating way to explore sex with your partner 49:33 The impact that your sex life has on all of your other relationships 52:50 Understanding the female orgasm 56:54 Rituals, manifestation and creating sex magic 1:03:18 How you can get in touch with Alexa Links and Resources:  Alexa’s Website  Alexa on Instagram  Alexa’s Free Facebook Group Sex and Love Academy The Want Will Won’t List Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski Untrue by Wednesday Martin The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy Guest Bio Alexa is a sex and relationship by design coach and sex coach business mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexuality expression across the globe. She is from the deep south of Louisiana and if anyone knows how to bust through taboos regarding sex, it’s her. She is known as @thatsexchick across social media and is the founder of That Sex Group, a NY Times featured community with love, sex & relationships as the central focus. Alexa speaks and teaches internationally on the subjects. Did you enjoy this episode? Please drop a comment below or leave a review on iTunes to let me know! I love hearing what you think and it helps others who want to Do It Different find the podcast as well.