035: Have More Orgasms, Debunk Society’s Sex Myths, and Become Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz

39% of women say they almost always orgasm during sex compared to 91% of men. Are you ready to bridge the gap? With society overvaluing penetrative sex, media depicting unrealistic female satisfaction, and conversations around sex feeling taboo, women are consistently having fewer orgasms than men. Here to talk about the orgasm gap and how to fix it is Dr. Laurie Mintz. Dr. Laurie is a feminist author, therapist, professor, and speaker whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, joyful—and sexually satisfying—lives. In this episode, she talks about mindful sex, female anatomy, and the three steps to becoming cliterate. Enjoy! Episode Highlights:  4:57 Why women are orgasming less than men 8:05 Are you ignoring your most reliable route to an orgasm?  16:49 Why simultaneous orgasms are unrealistic 20:19 What sex and meditation have in common 22:58 How you can have more mindful sex 28:29 A crash course in female anatomy 32:45 Three steps to becoming cliterate 36:49 How to have more sex-positive thoughts  38:43 Sex toys and lubricant recommendations 40:15 Debunking three fears women have around vibrators 43:36 How to talk about sex with your partner 48:27 The truth about squirting 54:26 Creating a sex-positive household  56:24 Get in touch with Dr. Laurie Links and Resources:  Dr. Laurie’s Website Dr. Laurie on Instagram Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman  Uberlube LELO Intimate Personal Moisturizer Yoni Oil Sliquid Organics Alexa Martinez on Instagram Podcast: 015: Sex, Shame, and Orgasms with Sex & Relationship Coach Alexa Martinez Guest Bio: Dr. Laurie Mintz is a feminist author, therapist, professor, and speaker whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, joyful—and sexually satisfying—lives through the art and science of psychology.​ As a tenured Professor at the University of Florida, she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduate students each year. She also teaches and mentors graduate students in both their clinical and research training, helping them to find their own niche as psychologists. Dr. Mintz has published over 50 research articles in academic journals and six chapters in academic books. She has received numerous professional and teaching awards and is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating that her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology. Her two popular press books - both written with the aim of empowering women sexually - are Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship. Did you enjoy this episode? Please drop a comment below or leave a review on iTunes to let me know! I love hearing what you think and it helps others who want to Do It Different find the podcast as well.