Is Monogamy Toxic — Or Are We Just Bad at Talking About Sex? (With Feeld CEO Ana Kirova)

These days, it feels like everyone is talking about open relationships—whether as a fix, an experiment, or a new kind of freedom. But can they actually work? And can they really improve your sex life? In this episode of Doing Sex, Sahar sits down with Ana Kirova, CEO of Feeld, the app that’s helped redefine modern intimacy and champion ethical non-monogamy.Ana shares what open relationships have taught her about communication, lessons grounded in freedom, honesty, choice, and kindness. She talks about what led to her opening her relationship with her partner, Dimo, who was so inspired by their experience, he built an app to help others do the same. That idea became Feeld, a space for exploring love, sexuality, and connection beyond traditional rules.The conversation covers jealousy, honesty, emotional safety, and how to unlearn the relationship scripts many of us grew up with. Whether you’re monogamous, curious, or somewhere in between, this episode will challenge what you think you know about sex, commitment, and what it really means to “go open.” Chapters 00:00 Intro 05:43 What an open relationship really is & The myth of the perfect monogamous relationship 09:12 Is monogamy toxic? 10:58 Facing our fears makes us stronger. 14:54 Ana's journey into ethical non-monogamy. 29:35 Does everyone have the emotional capacity for an open relationship? 32:04 Boundaries, mistakes and jealousy. . 41:05 19:05 How Feeld changed modern dating, what they've discovered about our desires. Doing Sex: https://www.instagram.com/doing____sex/?hl=en Sahar Zand: https://www.instagram.com/saharzand5/?hl=en Feeld: https://www.instagram.com/feeldco/?hl=en Ana Kirova: https://www.instagram.com/ana__kirova/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices