E77: Fixing People is Not the Fix

So many of us have a deep desire to “fix” people. We often feel so fulfilled when we think we are helping out, thinking we are the wise ol’ owls who have the answers. However there actually is no need to fix people, because we can’t. We can’t change anyone, only ourselves. In today’s episode, we talk about how you can get over this desire to “fix” people, the power of checking in with yourself, and the beauty of allowing certain things to take their time. Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: Fixing people is not what causes happiness nor is it your role The value of checking in with yourself The importance of emotional bravery and taking bold steps On courage and patience Episode Highlights: [00:14] Fixing People Doesn’t Define Happiness Fixing people doesn’t make you happy - being a passenger with them is what’s going to make you happy. Be someone that provides a safe shore or an island for them to swim to and to achieve calm, steadiness, and hopefully, good insight. And so, fixing people is not what’s really going to fill you.   You can't fix anyone, and you can only be with them to witness what's going on. Maybe offer some advice if asked, and just be an ear for them so that whatever comes out of their mouth will help them in course-correcting. They can then rewrite the story so that they're not the victims, and that it speaks the truth, and not just from the fabrication of our negative minds. [03:13] The Value of Checking In with Yourself It is very important to be constantly checking in with yourself every day, throughout the day. If you've fallen 12,000 times then be sure to get up 12,001 times – and that's the key.  And so, check in with your energy all day long because you might only need to take a walk or drink water for you to feel better and somehow reset.  [05:49] Courage and Patience Take a bold step, be courageous, and be emotionally brave. Be around people who are on the same frequency as yours, even if you completely have different lives and challenges. Things actually take time and it's worth it.