Everything Always Episode 89: Working on Yourself, Family Routines, and Difficult Parents

In this episode, we will be doing things a little bit differently. We have been getting a lot of letters from you guys, and we want to be able to read more of them and respond more fully, so today we will be reading through not just one, but multiple letters! You’ll hear a letter to someone who hopes their ex gets the help they need, a letter from a stepmother with a confession, and more. As we read through these letters, we will also take the time to talk through them and discuss the situations. Listen in as we discuss how to better communicate with an ex and the importance of working and focusing on ourselves. You will also hear how we deal with sharing time, creating routines, and communicating about rules and routines. 4:02 – 5:39 - Our plan to read more letters. 5:40 - 7:47 - A letter to an ex who needs help. 7:48 - 9:14 - Why it’s so important to know you’re not the only one going through the things that come with divorce (and not be afraid to reach out). 9:15 - 13:39 - The difficulty in relaying helpful feedback in a difficult relationship. 13:40 – 16:42 - A letter from a step-mom who feels relieved when her stepkids are away. 16:43 - 19:02 - Knowing that it takes time to find your groove as a mixed family. 19:03 - 25:43 - How to know what can slide and when to be consistent. 25:44 - 31:17 - A letter to an overbearing father and what to do when your ex may be narcissistic. 31:18 - 37:55 - A letter about a TikTok dilemma and how to promote better morals in your home.   Takeaways: The importance of going to counseling and working on yourself. Why you need to be okay with feeling relieved when step-kids leave the house. How to handle an ex who is too hard on your child. Why it's crucial to document when a lot of issues are occurring with the other parent. How to express your concern about what children put on the internet.   Quotes: “I used to think we were the only ones who couldn’t figure out how to get along, but then I started seeing people all over the place who were having issues. I really hoped when we got divorced that we could get along.” - Anonymous “To let it out, to journal—it brings some type of relief.” - Summer “Be the consistent parent that shows a good example and try to be the best you can for your kids when it’s your time and opportunity. Eventually, the kids will be attracted to that and they’ll want more of that.” - Mike   3 Interesting Clips: 10:30 - 12:27 - What to do when you want to give feedback to a difficult ex. 17:11 - 17:50 - The feelings of missing out on focused attention in a mixed family. 18:01 - 19:03 - What you can control in your home and the importance of communicating with your spouse when it comes to home routines.   Links: Text us: 760-389-3722 Send us an anonymous letter Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm