INFATUATION, UNREQUITED LOVE, ROMANTIC OBSESSION, Limerence – What we can learn from psychology

Is love one of the most supreme, most desirable experiences of human life? Carl Rogers proposed that receiving love in the form of unconditional positive regard was a crucial key to happiness and adjustment. Then Erich Fromm shifted the emphasis from receiving to giving, and proposed the learning the difficult “art of loving” was the essential thing that promised self-realization, emotional satisfaction, and fulfilling insights. Unrequited Love, or One-sided infatuation – in other words love that is not returned in the same form -- offers the ideal chance to separate and examine independently the two phenomena – loving and being loved – since in Unrequited Love one person gives love and the other is loved. Perhaps neither loving nor being loved is enough. Only when they are combined in a relationship is there a significant chance for happiness. Randolph Pitts holds Summa Cum Laude degrees in Social Psychology and Egyptology from the University of California Berkeley, and a Masters Degree in Motion Picture Production and Entertainment Law from UCLA. He has also done advanced research for the Department of Psychology at UCLA, concentrating on couples and relationships dynamics. He is a member of Phi Beta Kappa and the American Philosophical Association, the organization of university professors of Philosophy. He is also an associate member of the Los Angeles County Bar Association. Randolph has been a top executive at several entertainment companies, including a ten year stint as Chief Executive Officer of the company that produced Leaving Las Vegas for which Nicolas Cage won the Academy Award as best actor. The first volume of his eagerly anticipated tetralogy of novels will be published during 2022. Pitts' spellbinding novels deal at an unrelenting fever pitch with eroticism, mysticism, terrorism and crime on a global scale.He has a lifelong interest in the relationship between philosophy, psychology and history. Randolph Pitts is a classical composer and a novelist. The first volume of his tetralogy of novels already completed will be published in 2022. He is the founder and host of the Explore Ecstatic Sensuality podcast. Musical excerpt: Der Schatten eines Traumes, inspired by the writings of Walter Benjamin, Christoph Friedrich Heinle, Gilles Deleuze, Ingeborg Bachmann and Karoline von Günderrode.