#660 Don’t Beat Yourself Up! Tips on Stopping the Urgency of Attachment

I want you, and I want you NOW. Have you ever wanted someone so badly that you’ll run down anything that stands in your way? Maybe you think of elaborate ways to hook them, thinking he or she is the answer to your prayers. It’s an urgency caused by the intensity of illusion. Yes, illusion. That’s because this intense feeling disguises itself as love, but it isn’t love. It’s attachment, and unfortunately, attachment is what many of us learn from society. It’s a desperate desire to be loved, and when you don’t get it, you wonder what you’re doing wrong. In this episode we’ll look at the illusion you’re living in, where you believe the situation or the person you want will magically change (he’ll finally leave her; she’ll eventually see what a catch I am). You’ll learn that disappointment, which you’re trying to avoid, can actually be a great friend and teacher. Because despite what you might see in the movies, love isn’t urgent. That dramatic arc? That’s attachment. Being able to distinguish between the two is a critical step toward finding actual love.