The Aftermath of Suicide Pursuit - Aliza Bulow (PART 1)

We are joined in this first of two episodes, with Aliza Bulow to talk about suicide awareness. Aliza shares the story of her young son, Doni, who was determined to accomplish his lifelong request of dying by suicide. She gives us insight from a parent that lives with someone with depression and a desire for death by suicide. Doni was the sixth child of Aliza and her husband and was a charming little boy. From the young age of five he began to articulate that he "did not want to be on this world". Due to his extreme mental pain, he considered different forms of death and continued to express this goal throughout his young childhood years.  As a teen, he was good looking, smart and had lots of friends and a supportive family. He was a creative thinker, young computer innovator and budding genius, and had a passion for coding for Firefox. He was not disobedient or disruptive, but simply played by his own rules. Aliza had other children with learning challenges, attention issues, sensory issues, and sleep issues, but nothing was helpful in diagnosing Doni’s symptoms. "He was a mystery, wrapped in an enigma, surrounded by a question mark all the time". He was diagnosed with extreme depression and bipolar at a young age which prevented any normal functioning and age-appropriate learning.  Aliza and her husband tried everything they could do to treat Doni’s diagnosis. Going to psychologists and psychiatrists, having Doni live with his Grandma in a remote forest and even transferred Doni to a school with children having different learning styles didn't change the fact that Doni’s death was expected. Aliza came to accept and recognize that Doni was mentally terminally ill, which allowed her to reduce her constant overpowering and crippling worrying and be able to continue to function for the rest of the family and also be available for Doni as best she could.  Sometimes we forget to talk about how hard it is to be a loved one to somebody that is struggling so hard, and we simply may not be able to understand their mind. We might try to help and prevent them from injuring or killing themselves, but we may not be able to actually understand how to comfort them. These topics are so important for us to be able to support the ones in our life that are going through this journey of suicide thoughts and conversations, suicide attempts, and actual death by suicide.   -- Today's episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge.  Betterhelp.com is the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help anytime, anywhere. Head to https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge for 10% off your first month of services. IMPORTANT: Be sure to click this link in order to get the 10% off code -- Interested in joining our monthly Mastermind?  Find out more info here! www.hopetorecharge.com/Mastermind -- Topics Discussed: Living with a son with suicidal thoughts How to engage in conversations about suicide The role of professionals in mental health -- Suicide Hotlines: USA: 1-800-273-8255 USA Crisis Text: 741-741 Canada: 1-833-456-4566 United Kingdom: 116-123 Australia: 13-11-14 International Suicide Hotlines: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines -- Connect with us! Website: https://hopetorecharge.com/ Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2079694042156503/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matanajacobs/ -- WAYS TO HELP THE PODCAST ______________________ Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hope-to-recharge/id1464788845 ————————————————————————— Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing. Our website is https://hopetorecharge.com/ our FB is https://www.facebook.com/groups/2079694042156503/ and our Instagram is https://www.instagram.com/matanajacobs/ -------------------------------------------------------- Subscribe to us on: iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hope-to-recharge/id1464788845 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/00AIhRZOxKNOvenz32gGeK Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/heather-parady-2/hope-to-recharge Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_DkYMcco7pSrkKk6wU5p7w Google: https://play.google.com/music/listen?u=0#/ps/Izxlwulashxr3n6trjrxpjpgwce Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/hope-to-recharge/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy