Dating Without Fornicating // Relationship Goals (Part 1)

Pastor Vlad started a new series titled "Relationship Goals". Message Notes: Genesis 2:20-22 Adam knew MASTER. Adam was on MISSION. Adam found MATE. 1. You are ready to date when you don’t need to. It was God who brought up the issue of marriage, not Adam. You have to be so lost in God that person has to look for God to find you. God is not anti-love, He is anti-lust. Lust is devils substitute for love. Lust looks like love as alcohol looks like water but they have different effect. Lust vs love: Lust is selfish, love is sacrificial Lust seeks isolation, love seeks community Lust forces sex, love initiates marriage Lust hurts, love heals Lust does not last, love grows with time Lust get punished, love gets rewarded If you are hurting you will turn relationship into rehab. There are sharks in the sea of dating, therefore don’t go swimming if you are bleeding. Its impossible to have high standards with low self-esteem. Marriage will not fix your lust, insecurity or abuse. It will not make you hole, but it will reveal your holes. 2. You will wait for God to bring right person or wait for God to change wrong person. Adam went on a search for a spouse but could not find anyone comparable. Most comparable was monkey. Don’t date monkeys. 1 Corinthians 7:39 2 Corinthians 6:14 Divorce rate falls in the half if both attend church, have same theology and practice that faith home. How to find a wrong person? When you start dating without getting over your ex When you date someone believes in God but does not follow Jesus. When you expect that marriage will fix this person. When your gut tells you to “this is not right”. When your mentors don’t support you in this. When there is no mutual attraction. 3. Waiting on God is allowing God to take something out of you before He brings someone to you. Wake up spiritually, go to sleep sexually (Song of Solomon 2:7). Flirting leads to fornication. Fleeing leads to sanctification. Don’t stir up feelings in people you know for sure you will not be with. We are just talking. Waiting on God is not idle, its God working on you. The key is not finding the right person but being the right person. Expectation without preparation equals frustration. If you knew you the way you know you, would you marry you? Prayer Point: We are believing the Lord for… Dates and better dates! Brides and grooms! Proposals Weddings and revival babies Favorable glances Tuxes and wedding dresses Interests and commitments Hard squeezes returned Rings and honeymoons Wives and spouses Debts paid off Nerves decrease Courage increased Thank you Lord for meeting all my romantic needs That I may find my one and only partner to build the Kingdom of God and promote the gospel of Jesus Christ. Stay connected with Pastor Vlad Instagram http://www.instagram.com/vladhungrygen Facebook http://www.facebook.com/vladhungrygen Twitter http://www.twitter.com/vladhungrygen Subscribe to his blog: http://www.hungrygen.com/blog Invite Pastor Vlad to speak http://www.hungrygen.com/invite