EP 12 United Front in Marriage (when you don’t always agree)

This episode talks about how to be a united front in your marriage and parenting when you don’t always agree. I walk through a framework we use when we don’t agree on the small things and then when we don’t agree on the big things. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It happens.I talk about steps to take when you don’t agree on education for your kids, ways to discipline, sleep schedules, finances, number of children to have, if you want to go to church and your spouse doesn’t, and more... all the fun things that tend to drive a wedge in our marriages.Show NotesThe Ferber Method (Cry it out)7-step framework to get on the same page:Write it down (Shine a light on it)Is it REALLY a big deal to you? (Sometimes, we feel like we should care or do something because of outside pressures to do so...but in reality we may not care as much as we think we do...OR we realize our spouse actually cares more about a certain topic than you realized)Contemplate who should have the authority or the final say (i.e. I had the final say in education because I'm a teacher and he had the final say in rentals because he deals with our rentals the most)Find Evidence/studies/journals to back up your stance. (Disagree on screen time? Find researched based articles that show the effects of extended screen time for children - can't argue with facts! ;) )Take baby steps towards one another. (It's unlikely, if it's a big topic, that someone is going to completely surrender their point of view or stance. So both give a little bit. You think screen time should be 30 min a day and he thinks 5 hours is fine? Settle on 3 hours (2 movies a day)Lead by Example. (Sometimes we get stubborn and we aren't convicted at the same time about the same thing as our spouse...so as much as it would be great to do things together...sometimes you just need to manage screen time, eat healthy when they aren't, and keep a budget yourself before they are ready.Seek Marriage Counseling (When we find ourselves really digging our heels in...there is usually something deeper going on. It's really nice to have someone from the outside looking in give us advice when we can't see the root cause clearly.Facebook GroupTo catch up on all things Legacy through Motherhood head to www.simsarrows.com6 St🙅🏻‍♀️dfsdfasdf