Episode 11: No New Friends

Episode 11: No New Friends It’s been said as we age, it is more difficult to find and sustain friendships. Today, we will discuss the thinking behind the terminology of “No New Friends” and why this is perpetuated among Black women.   Brand Partner: Yara Imani  This podcast is sponsored in part by Yara Imani, an online boutique for African inspired apparel, accessories, and more. Looking for a new style for your professional headshot, family photo or a night on the town, check out their website at www.yaraimani.com and Save 10% when you use the promo code MOMOLOGY Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yaraimani1 Instagram: https://instagram.com/yara.imani   Momology: (Self-limiting) Rationale on NOT making new friends (“I’m lonely):  No one enjoys the same hobbies as I do I don’t care for negative people around me—too much drama and cattiness Meet-up groups are not my type of thing. My partner is the only friend I need. Friendship= only social or professional growth, not companionship I’m introverted; I don’t like people I need/prefer friends around my same age. Reflections on the lack of friendships Identifying the type of person you are: do you prefer engagement via text with occasional IRL encounters? Do you like going out all the time? What is limiting is SUSTAINING friendships? What kind of people have you attracted in the past? This could be an internal reflection on the person YOU are! Making friendships are relationships. They require time and effort in cultivating them. YOUR HOMEWORK: Identify one person you think you interested in befriending. Start with a compliment. Let’s hear about how your doing--comment to us via FB, IG, or twitter!   Sources: Gwyer, Patrick G. (2017 May 21) Why a hug is so important for well-being. LinkedIn. Retrieved: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-hug-so-important-wellbeing-pat-gwyer/   Article: Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (Alex Williams, New York Times) https://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-of-making-friends-as-an-adult.html   Article: Loneliness isn't inevitable – a guide to making new friends as an adult https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/apr/30/how-to-make-new-friends-adult-lonely-leap-of-faith   SxSW: Starting Monday, August 6, 2018 we are asking for your vote in the SxSW panel picker as would like to present a live episode on Shifting: The Black Mom Reality.  Check out our social media all month long to vote.   Continue the Discussion, Download, Subscribe, Rate, Like, Follow Us, and Share on: Twitter: @MMomology Insta: @mahoganymomology FB: @MahoganyMomology Email Us: [email protected]   Recording Studio: Greenville Ave Recording Studio Website: http://www.greenvilleaverecordingstudio.com/