5. Being a True Leader Means Being Able to Shut Up and Listen (Especially in Intimacy) w/ Joshua Hathaway

Do you communicate clearly with your partner? … Are you sure? Do you even know what your partner is asking for, when they’re asking you to listen? Do you know what TRUE MASCULINE LEADERSHIP is? I first experienced Joshua Hathaway one evening in Los Angeles when he was leading a workshop for men. I remember feeling so awake in my spirit and alive in my body by the end of that evening, because Joshua wove in the severely overlooked need of adult men to be PLAYFUL together .. and so we played a lot that evening, and man it was so refreshing. Because I’m way too serious, way too often. Although I haven’t known him long, since that workshop I’ve been captivated by Joshua’s presence, and his ability to hold the attention of men, to inspire men to deeper connection with themselves, and from there, with others. I wouldn’t describe Joshua as confident. I would describe him AS the personification of confidence, itself. Joshua is also the founder of the company actually called, “No Bullsh!t Communication,” through which he offers private and organizational trainings, as well as coaching and consulting. The core of Joshua’s work, which I so appreciate given the coaching work I do with couples, is helping people create real, meaningful connection. In this conversation, we dive into communication in relationships, the true role of masculine leadership (hint: shut up and listen), and so much more. Definitely stay tuned for Joshua’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of “Men, This Way.” Alright … Let’s dive … SHOW NOTES 6:11 ~ A formative event in Joshua’s life as a man 8:21 ~ The importance of deeply connected, intimate male bonds and friendships 10:05 ~ Male vulnerability in relationships and taking ownership 13:20 ~ The difference between the story and the phenomenon 20:22 ~ How Joshua learnt the difference between truth and stories 25:26 ~ Listening, and the difference between validation and agreement 30:28 ~ How becoming a father changed Joshua’s life 35:02 ~ Leaders take responsibility and do what need to be done 36:34 ~ Something truly terrifying that Joshua has done 38:29 ~ When to say yes, and when to say no 42:45 ~ Men and their relationship with what they want 44:17 ~ The shadow implications of men not pursuing what they want 45:13 ~ The biggest challenge facing men in the world today 49:14 ~ “5 KEY TAKEWAYS” FINALE 50:39 ~ KEY INSIGHT: Shut up and listen 51:27 ~ KEY MAN TO LEARN FROM: David Schnarch (psychotherapist), particularly his book “Passionate Marriage” 52:21 ~ KEY RESOURCE (most impactful, inspiring book, movie, podcast): “Non-Violent Communication” (book) by Marshall Rosenburg 52:17 ~ KEY INVESTMENT (the best thing you spent money on, under $10,000): Black foam roller 54:20 ~ KEY PRACTICE (7-day challenge to the men listening): Daily self-affirmations OTHER LINKS AND RESOURCES Find Joshua @ www.MasterYourBullshit.com As well as The Brotherhood Community @ www.BrotherhoodCommunity.com