122: The Healing Fantasy

This is the latest episode in this series on emotional immaturity, and I recommend going back and listening to the first four episodes if you haven’t yet.  If you are ready to heal yourself from childhood trauma, to move away from toxic relationships and dysfunction, it’s important to know that you cannot force other people to heal. There will be times that you will want to and that you will hope that they can change. But you cannot do their work for them. In today’s episode, I’m talking about what happens when we let other people affect how we feel, and why it is important to do the work ourselves because we can’t change others. When you have the tools in place to help you communicate with emotionally immature people, you can find a way forward with relationships that includes healthy boundaries. If you haven’t yet picked up a copy of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, I highly recommend that you do so and get on the path to your own emotional maturity. What you’ll find in this episode: How we play out our childhood roles in dysfunctional families and toxic situations as adults How letting other people affect the way you feel is a “healing fantasy,” and why you have to rely on yourself to change and heal (not the people around you) Tools you help you interact with emotionally immature people, and respecting and loving these people from a distance How other people’s actions and words are not about you, and why you have to be aware of who you share with Get full show notes, resources, and links on my website! Are you ready to go deeper? I am giving you the keys to the castle. If you enjoyed this podcast and want to hear more, make sure to subscribe so you’ll never miss an episode! You can connect with me on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok or Youtube.