61. How companies can value their people pleasers more!

How companies can value their people pleasers more! #Takeaways   4 different ways that people pleasing behaviours show up at work Companies and their leaders need to watch out for these types of behaviours so they don’t take advantage of individuals ‘People pleasers’ are usually the nicest of people People pleasing can hold women back from owning their expertise People pleasers can take on too much work the antidote = boundaries! Although often seen as a positive for being more visible, people pleasing can have the opposite affect and there is a darker side     On today's show I am talking about ‘people pleasing’.  This has come up quite a lot recently income of the workshops and coaching I have been doing.  It is something that really holds women back from being able to truly promote themselves and not worry about what others think of them.  There are so many reasons why women often want to please others and this can have a huge impact not only for them but also for the companies that they work for.  This is a call out to team leaders and managers to recognise those people pleasing behaviours that often belong to the nicest of people, to help them to build boundaries that in turn mean their work and themselves gets the right attention it deserves. I do love connecting with companies and individuals who are also passionate about driving female leadership and closing the gap, so if that sounds like you - and I pretty sure it will be as you are here listening to this show - then make sure you are also receiving my newsletter that shares the latest around the gender pay gap, book recommendations and good practices that are happening all over the place that support more women to step up and be recognised for the value they bring.    Get yours by clicking >> https://www.gemmastow.com/newsletter   “People pleasers are usually the nicest of people.  They are the ones that give you the attention you need, they normally put your feelings before their own, they will let you speak up in meetings first, they will give you all the credit for work they have done and they will always make sure you have your glass topped up and food on your plate at parties” - Gemma “If there is one thing that a people pleaser will just not do - is interrupt anyone - so they often are forgotten about or their ideas and opinions are missed” - Gemma “The dark side of people pleasing is that they are often taken advantage of - and make no mistake this isn't alway maliciously or done on purpose, but what tends to happen is that individuals who say ‘yes’ to everything despite not having the time to do everything, are then ‘known as yes people’.” - Gemma “The biggest antidote to people pleasing is boundaries...people pleasers are the nicest people but in order to get the best out of them it is important to encourage them to have boundaries for themselves and their work...The best thing to do is check in with them.  Make sure they are not overstretched, and have the time to focus on doing their own work really well before taking on others work or extra responsibilities that nobody else wants.  Leaders are in a great position to role model boundaries and even help set them for their people.” - Gemma   #Resources   “5 Steps to being more visible at work”    https://www.gemmastow.com/5-ways-to-be-more-visible-at-work     Get the White Paper ‘Visibility at Work: The Importance of Self Promotion for Women’s Career Progression:   https://bit.ly/WP2020podcast     Book a call with Gemma:    http://bit.ly/CallGemmaPodcast     More info about the 1-1 No More Hiding 12 month Coaching Programme:   https://bit.ly/NMH12Pod   Connect with your host Gemma Stow: Website: https://www.gemmastow.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gemmastow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/gemmastow Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamgemmastow/ #nomorehiding #leadership #selfpromotion #femaleleaders #leadershipdevelopment #visibilitymatters #personalbranding