Comfort to Chaos: Still Risking After 12 Years of Marriage

This episode is brought to you by the following:  Better Help: Stop comparing and start focusing, with BetterHelp. Visit https://www.betterhelp.com/notalone today to get 10% off your first month. K12: Go to www.K12.com/VALERIA today to learn more and find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you  Today is a special day for Gary and Valeria as they celebrate their anniversary with a sweet and heartfelt conversation. They laugh about their audience's reactions to funny and controversial topics from past episodes, and how they enjoy showing their real, sometimes differing, opinions. They emphasize the importance of good communication and understanding each other's boundaries to keep their relationship strong.  They also discuss their feelings about gifts, preferring meaningful gestures over material things. Gary talks about taking risks and seizing opportunities, and Valeria appreciates how he has helped her grow. They reflect on what it means to be a power couple and the importance of being authentic. Valeria opens up about embracing her past and sharing her story to connect with others. Overall, it’s a genuine and heartfelt look into their life together. Mentioned:  Mesh shoes clip: https://www.instagram.com/p/C8zlO4oJhne/  Feather tickling clip: https://www.instagram.com/p/C8KxrblOmLO/  Feather episode full video: https://youtu.be/0dppdPulrhY  Jake podcast clip: https://www.instagram.com/p/C7rVE1qxfif/  Viola Davis quote: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2J0l8_prEbo  Valeria meeting her biological dad vlogs: https://youtu.be/Ho_5YisGHyU | https://youtu.be/FYhdTvyavoU | https://youtu.be/9_6xEEjH3bw  The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Johnathan Haidt https://a.co/d/gP3BDL5  Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4LWtl  Gary is on: https://www.instagram.com/garylipovetsky https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKHLJJd07IhT9DPhxsY-EYg  https://www.tiktok.com/@garylipovetsky  https://www.linkedin.com/in/garylipovetsky/  What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 00:29 The mesh shoes at the airport 03:30 Real couple interactions 06:10 Triggering the deep-seated wounds 11:20 Healthy conflict resolution 16:47 Have you ever hated your partner so much? 20:28 Gift giving 24:15 Would you buy me a gift? 27:44 Taking risks as a couple 30:09 A sense of urgency 38:43 Meeting my biological dad 41:01 Are you defined by your past?  42:39 Not being defined by how much you spend 47:59 Luxury brands marketing strategies 49:57 Trust is crucial in marriage 57:06 Take care of each other 01:00:26 Sitting down and talking with your kids 01:01:37 Kids and exposure on social media 01:05:28 Putting value on metrics 01:10:32 The Anxious Generation 01:13:10 Where are the flowers? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices