Listener Q & A: Punishment, Teenage Boys, & Letting Go

How do you make space for a teenage boy to make his own mistakes?Photo by olia danilevich via PexelsEspecially when said teenager is frustrating, annoying, and contributing to family chaos?Sandra said:Teenager years are frustrating — wanting to tell him what do, yet I know he needs to make his own mistakes. Throw in toddler boy hitting/screaming at his brother….She is definitely not the only parent wondering how to deal with a teen boys & balance the needs of siblings! That’s we tackled her question first in this edition of ON BOYS Listener Q & A.“It can be really hard to step back and let things unfold — let your teen be the one that has to navigate,” Janet says. She recommends talking about that with your teen. Say something like, “It is really hard to watch you make mistakes. I am here for you. I trust that you can figure this out on your own. And if need help, I am here.”Other listener questions include:My sons turned 18 yesterday and are in their last year of high school! I understand the natural and necessary pulling away from parents (especially moms) and establishing themselves as men. Is it possible to release them vs. them tearing away? If so, what does that look like?andHow & what do you prioritize? I’m a single mom with 3 sons. I can’t do homework, home cooked meals, sports practice and read with them every night, so what to prioritize, who to prioritize and what to let go?andShould I punish the boys by taking away screen time if they get bad grades? Taking away screens is the only punishment that works.In this episode, Jen & Janet discuss:Parenting teen & toddler boysLaunching teenagers & young adult men“Soiling the nest”Asking for helpHow to create a dinner co-opDealing with “bad grades”Nurturing connectionLinks we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:Listener Q & A: Supporting Sibling Relationships, Finding Common Ground, & More — Jan. ’23 ON BOYS episodePuberty, Perimenopause, & Midlife Parenting — ON BOYS episodeThe Art of Roughhousing (w Dr. Lawrence Cohen) — ON BOYS episodeMore Wisdom from Teacher Tom — ON BOYS episodeHow to Build Your Village — ON BOYS episodeSponsor Spotlight: Better HelpTherapy to help you live a more empowered life. Go to BetterHelp.com/onboys to save 10% Sponsor Spotlight: Baby QuipUse code ONBOYS for $20 off your reservation of $100 or more.Our Sponsors:* Check out Armoire: armoire.style/ONBOYS* Check out ByHeart and use my code ONBOYS for a great deal: byheart.com* Check out Lumen: lumen.me/ONBOYSAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy