EP 327: Having to Choose Your Family or Your Purpose with Pooja :

This episode is about making self-honoring choices without feeling selfish. Today’s caller, Pooja, has a beautiful relationship with her parents but is torn between pursuing her dream of being a life coach and staying in the U.S. or moving home to be closer to her aging parents who miss her. This episode will help you to get out of limbo and make decisions that feel selfish.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode327]   We want to make choices that are aligned with us versus a “should.” Choices made from “should” create a higher likelihood of resentment. We either end up resenting the people who pulled us to make the choice or we resent ourselves for making the choice because we feel like we betrayed and abandoned ourselves, which is never a good situation.   Whenever you feel the pull of both duty and desire, ask yourself what the most self-honoring choice is, because when we make the most self-honoring choice we are less likely to feel resentment later. We show up more authentically in our relationships when we make choices that are self-honoring.   Choose something, start to take steps forward, and then if you need to choose something else, you can.   If you are considering becoming a great coach, the $2,500 early bird discount for enrollment in ElementumCoachingInstitute.com ends on December 31, 2021. Email [email protected] if you have specific questions.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you struggling with a decision or choice, or have you been in limbo and it is causing you a lot of anxiety? Are you often torn between what you want to do and duty, obligation, or love you feel for your family that is pulling you in a different direction? Do you live far away from your parents or your family and feel a pull to be closer to them but also pull to stay where you are because you love it? When you make a choice that feels self-honoring does it feel selfish to you?   Pooja’s Question: Pooja is transitioning careers and is not yet ready to return to India to be with her aging parents. She would like guidance on whether to return or to follow her dream.   Pooja’s Key Insights and Ahas: She moved to the U.S. with the intention of returning home after a work assignment. She and her husband have been in the U.S. since 2013. She is going through a career transition. Her parents may expect her and her husband to return to India. Her dream is to be a life coach. She is torn between duty, obligation, and love. She hasn’t had a heart-to-heart conversation with her parents about her dream. Her values are aligned with her parents’ values. Her parents have given her freedom in her life and have never asked her for anything. Her parents are aging but healthy.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Make a decision without expectations or “shoulds.” Have a conversation with her parents about her dreams and goals. Commit to a decision and know that she can change it if she feels a nudge from her intuition. Keep in contact with her parents via video.   Takeaways: If you are struggling with a decision/choice, remember you are not locked in. Empower yourself by getting out of limbo.   Sponsor: STORYWORTH — Do you have your gifts ready for the holidays? A thoughtful and meaningful gift you can give a family member is Storyworth. Storyworth helps your family share stories through thought-provoking questions about their memories and personal thoughts. Storyworth has helped numerous families learn about each other in profound and special ways. After a year, Storyworth compiles the stories and pictures in a keepsake book that ships for free. Give the important people in your life a meaningful gift Storyworth.com/overit and get $10 off your first purchase.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram [email protected] — Males who want to be on the show [email protected] — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.