282: The Honor Roll Hangover with Melody Wilding

Believe it or not, your emotions are a competitive advantage: 90 percent of top performers are also high in emotional intelligence, and 92 percent of executives rate soft skills like the ability to manage emotions as a critical priority in today’s business environment. That said, if you relate to the idea of being a Sensitive Striver, you may still be suffering from what Melody Wilding calls The Honor Roll Hangover—a tricky trifecta of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overfunctioning. Listen in to this conversation for the antidote. More About Melody: Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. She is a human behavior expert and executive coach and teaches graduate-level human behavior and psychology at the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in New York.  🌟 3 Key Takeaways: Leave margin in your life for serendipity and fluctuations. Don’t be afraid to book yourself to only 80% capacity. Protect your time and energy by protecting your calendar. Sensitive strivers need the time to switch gears between activities. Trusting yourself is the antidote to perfectionism, overfunctioning, and people-pleasing. Depend on your intuition more.   📝 Melody’s Permission List: I hereby grant myself complete and unlimited permission to:  In order to: Specifically, I have permission to feel:  I have permission to be: Specifically I have permission to push when:  I have permission to rest when:  I have permission to start:  I have permission to try:  I have permission to stop:  I have permission to let go:  Giving myself full permission and wholeheartedly believing in myself is important right now because:  I trust myself to:  📘 Books Mentioned: Free Time: Lose The Busywork, Love Your Business  Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You 🔗 Resources Mentioned:  Melody on the web | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Video: Celebrating one year of Trust Yourself Articles: Medium Article on Trust Yourself, Forbes on Being an Overfunctioner at Work Related Podcast Episodes:  The Penney & Jenny Show (12 episodes) 277: Expansive Impact and Spacious Scheduling with Sarah Young 172: Self-Care for Empaths and HSPs with Sarah Santacroce 148: Penney & Jenny Show—Pivoting From Toxic Situations Toward Self-Entertainment 112: Whose Voice is in Your Head? Perfection Detox Round Two with Petra Kolber 73: What's more important to you than perfection? With Jenny Blake 56: Perfection Detox with Petra Kolber 78: How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t — With Andrea Owen   ❤️ Enjoying the show? I'd be grateful for a rating and/or review! Even better? Share this episode with a friend :) 💌 Get my curated weekly(ish) PivotList newsletter 💬 I’d love to hear what’s on your mind! Take the Pivot listener survey 🗣 Submit a question or comment for future episodes 🎧 Make sure you’re subscribed wherever you listen to ‘casts 📝 Check out full show notes from this episode with links to resources mentioned at http://pivotmethod.com/282 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices