# 13 - How to build your confidence and go for what you want

Episode 13: ‘HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE AND GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT’   “CONFIDENCE drives SUCCESS…”   How much do you like yourself?   Do you have a fear of walking up to people?   Are you afraid of being rejected?   Do you doubt yourself?   Statistics prove that confident business owners succeed more in both commerce and life.   This podcast explores: What is confidence? Why do we lose confidence? What can we do to regain confidence?   In a farming business, possible factors affecting confidence could be: Market condition. Succession issues. Family/Team member conflicts.   As a result…   You forget to focus on the goals you set when you first started out in business.   “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal” - Henry Ford   Confidence is easily lost on a business journey because of all the moving parts of running a business.   Confidence is an inner liking of YOURSELF.   The more you like yourself, the more confident you become.   The more confident you are, the better decisions you make.   “The speed of success that you will have in business is directly related to the speed in which you are able to make decisions”   The truth is, you start acting very defensively when you lack confidence; You stop taking risks; You stop taking the steps that need to be taken to help you succeed in business and in life.   “We need to spend more time un-learning before we learn”   Un-learn all the negative drama from parents, teachers and peers.   Re-wire your brains to the positive.   How can you do this?...   Here are 3 ways to effectively un-learn the negative and learn the positive: Be kind to yourself Treat yourself extremely well. Take pressure off yourself. Accept failure as feedback - an opportunity to do better next time. “It’s what you say to yourself, when you are by yourself, and about yourself that matters most”   Bring more awareness to your thoughts You are just a manifestation of your thinking. Your thoughts of you create YOU. Train your brain to let a negative thought go. Re-fuel the belief that you are good enough. Write down your thoughts and assess if it is serving you, or sabotaging you. Find gratitude around you whenever negative thoughts strike. “Gratitude fuels self-esteem and confidence”   Implement a morning routine Commit to doing this daily. Train your brain to say positive things to yourself every morning. Build the habit of positive affirmation - “I am worthy”, “I like myself”. Visualise yourself being successful - think of yourself like a champion. See your success even before you have it. Write a small note about how amazing you are and read it to yourself daily. Create a journal - write down your goals and why you want them. “Just one small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day” - Dalia Lama   Finally…   Maintain a strong confidence in yourself or you’ll end up as a victim to the external circumstances that can influence your beliefs.   Invest in your own self-confidence and assure yourself that there will be a return on that investment.   You will see amazing things happen.   What's stopping you from deciding to be a confident person right now?   “With confidence, you have won before you started” - Marcus Garvey