#164: What's Wrong With Me? Why can't I just be happy with life? How to identify what's really at the root of your unhappiness and how to change it

Show notes: Introduction: Who do you want to be vs. who you really are How your unhappiness has everything to do with how you see yourself, others, and the world. Segment 1: What is Dissonance? (00:02:15) Understand dissonance as a feeling of being out of alignment with your ideal self. Relate dissonance to beliefs, actions, and thoughts. Listen to specific examples to grasp the concept better. Segment 2: Recognizing Dissonance (00:04:00) Honestly assess your alignment with your desired self. Reflect on whether you genuinely like yourself and whether you match up your past aspirations. Segment 3: Choosing Your Thoughts (00:06:30) Contemplate past moments of unhappiness and self-questioning. Recognize the tendency to blame external factors when feeling out of alignment. Grasp the significance of the term "dissonance." Segment 4: The Impact of Our Thoughts (00:09:45) Learn from Viktor Frankl's experiences during the Holocaust. Understand how thoughts influence your perception and response to circumstances. Understand that suffering is often a result of your thoughts. Segment 5: Getting Out of the Box (00:13:30) Comprehend the concept of being "in the box" and its effects on emotions and physical well-being. Realize that staying in the box, even if you're right, is a choice and will lead to suffering 100% of the time Create an alternate story to shift your perspective and observe how it affects your feelings and reactions. Segment 6: Self-Reflection and Accountability (00:16:45) Commit to daily reflection, journaling, or seeking support from others to acknowledge the times you're in the box Understand that no one else can put you in the box; you are responsible for your thoughts and reactions. You put yourself in the box If you'd like help recognizing when you're in the box or how you might be out of alignment, reach out! My website has lots of resources and ways to schedule a call (www.coachhopecook.com⁠www.coachhopecook.com⁠) or email me, [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/coachhopecook/message