Overcoming Transactional Dynamics in Relationships & Availability Bias

In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry addresses the complex issues of availability bias and the transactional nature that can sometimes manifest in relationships. Dr. Perry explores how these patterns can negatively impact both individuals and their relationships, especially for those who exhibit narcissistic tendencies. Dr. Perry emphasizes that when relationships are viewed through a transactional lens, individuals often feel entitled to certain outcomes or responses in exchange for their efforts. This mindset can cultivate resentment and lead to emotional imbalance, causing damage to both parties involved. By shifting this perspective and recognizing these tendencies, individuals can begin to foster more balanced and emotionally healthy relationships. Listeners will gain insights into: Transactional Relationships: Understanding how viewing relationships as a series of transactions can lead to feelings of imbalance and resentment. Emotional Bank Accounts: The concept of keeping a mental tally of emotional deposits and withdrawals, and how it affects relationship dynamics. Availability Bias: How this cognitive bias can cause individuals to overemphasize negative experiences and underappreciate positive actions. Symbiosis Stage: Insights into Margaret Mahler’s developmental stage and how it relates to expectations of reciprocity and mind reading in relationships. Dr. Perry explains that individuals with narcissistic tendencies may perceive relationships as a series of transactions, where they expect equal or greater returns for their efforts. This mindset can lead to feelings of anger, frustration, and even rage when they perceive an imbalance. By understanding these dynamics and becoming aware of their behaviors, individuals can work towards healthier relationship patterns. Recognizing and addressing these behaviors can significantly improve the quality of your relationships and personal well-being. Dr. Perry invites listeners to join him on this journey toward better self-awareness and healthier interactions. Tune in to learn more about availability bias, transactional dynamics, and how to navigate these patterns in your relationships for a more fulfilling and balanced existence. Thank you for listening! Connect with Dr. Perry: ⁠⁠https://drericperry.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Own Your Stuff Online Support Group: ⁠https://drericperry.com/ownyourstuff⁠ Empathy Awakening Workshop: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support this podcast: ⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/recoveryforthenarcissist/support⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.