Surviving Coercive Control: Jennifer’s Journey

In this powerful episode, Jennifer shares her courageous journey of surviving a destructive marriage characterized by coercive control.   Part 1: Unveiling Coercive Control Jennifer reveals the insidious nature of coercive control, including constant threats of abandonment and emotional manipulation. She emphasizes how these actions often went unnoticed because they were subtle but nonetheless destructive. Part 2: The Impact of Coercive Control Julie delves deeper into Jennifer's experiences, focusing on the profound impact of coercive control. Jennifer shares an early experience that revealed her husband's manipulation tactics and how she was discouraged from setting boundaries or expressing opinions. Jennifer began to experience anxiety and panic attacks that resulted from her husband's threats and unpredictable behavior. Part 3: Coping and Staying in the Marriage Julie explores Jennifer's coping mechanisms and they explore why she stayed in the marriage. Jennifer discusses the gradual progression of abuse and her belief that her husband would eventually change. She also reflects on a feeling of being trapped and how fear played a significant role in her decision to stay, particularly after having children. Part 4: Isolation and Punishment The conversation delves into the isolation tactics used by Jennifer's husband. Jennifer describes how her husband never explicitly imposed rules but used various strategies to isolate her and exert control. She shares examples of emotional punishment, including contempt, belittling, and affection withdrawal, emphasizing the need for recognizing the signs of abuse. Part 5: Seeking Help and Church Response Julie discusses a pivotal moment when Jennifer and her husband sought help from their church. Jennifer acknowledges her husband's initial willingness to address the issue and recounts the church's response, including the pastor's advice and the lack of support from church members. Part 6: Hitting a Breaking Point The conversation shifts to a recent incident in 2021 when Jennifer's husband once again walked out on her. Jennifer explains the unique challenges she faced due to her husband's control over finances, isolation, and living in foreign countries. She describes the extent of her husband's rage, which lasted nonstop for nine weeks, and its emotional toll on her. Highlights the power of coercive control and emotional abuse, even without physical violence. Part 7: Seeking Help and Finding Conquer Jennifer shares her journey of seeking help, including a turning point when she cried out to God for guidance. Talks about her struggle to find the right support, navigating between secular and Christian advice. Discusses how she discovered Conquer and the impact it had on her healing process. Part 8: The Transformative Power of Conquer Jennifer highlights the transformative impact of Conquer on her life. Expresses gratitude for the safe and supportive space it provides for women facing similar challenges. Discusses key insights and "aha moments" she gained through Conquer, including understanding the abuse cycle and victim mentality. Emphasizes the importance of focusing on personal growth and wellness, regardless of the decision to stay or leave an abusive relationship. Part 9: Encouragement for Others Jennifer shares a message of hope and encouragement for those who may be listening and facing similar situations. Encourages individuals to consider joining Conquer and emphasizes its role in empowering women to make informed choices about their relationships. Highlights the significance of finding a supportive community and taking steps toward healing and personal growth. Resources:Conquer is open through October 17th. Sign up at www.leslievernick.com/joinOrder Leslie's book, "The Emotionally Destructive Marriage."Find other resources at www.leslievernick.com