200. Repair Attempts in Conflict

In this episode, we delve into the second step of the five-step series on resolving conflict, as taught by the Gottman Institute. The focus is on making and receiving repair attempts to manage conflicts effectively. The host, Becky, emphasizes the importance of starting conflicts softly, avoiding the 'four horsemen' that escalate fights, and adopting positive repair attempts. Techniques such as using 'I feel' statements, staying polite, and employing the Gottman repair checklist are discussed. The podcast also addresses the challenge of practicing these methods, especially for individuals prone to being people pleasers or suffering from codependency. Becky concludes with an invitation to an upcoming webinar that aims to help listeners foster healthy connections through better conflict management. 00:00 Welcome & Series Introduction 00:15 Recap: The First Step to Resolving Conflict 01:09 Deep Dive: Techniques for a Soft Startup 02:43 Understanding the Purpose of Conflict Resolution Techniques 04:27 Introducing Step Two: Making and Receiving Repair Attempts 05:47 Exploring Positive Repair Attempts 08:27 Practical Tips: Implementing Repair Attempts in Daily Life 08:53 The Importance of Practice and Persistence 09:39 Invitation to an Upcoming Webinar on Healthy Conflict 10:50 Closing Thoughts and Goodbye