S9 Ep. 5: I Want to Use My Vibrator with Him, I Can't Face Sex After My Husband's Affair, and How to Make 69ers More Satisfying

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I have my best orgasms using my wand vibrator. My old boyfriend didn’t have an issue with using it in bed with us (though he was the first man I’ve ever used it with). Now, I’m with someone new—about two months in—and want to bring it up. Any hints on what to say? My previous boyfriend was the one to suggest it last time.2) I’ve been to hell and back in my marriage. My partner confessed to having a three-month affair with a woman at his work. We’ve been to therapy and have decided to work through it, but we haven’t had sex since I found out about her. Anytime I get a sexual thought, an image of him with her squashes it. That’s all I see: him with someone else. How do I get past this and enjoy sex again?3) I love 69ers but I often end up unsatisfied. Seems to me like one person always misses out—usually me! My partner is more interested with what I’m doing to him and loses interest in stimulating me. It can also be uncomfortable. Any suggestions on how to make 69ers a bit more satisfying?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.