Boosting Self-Esteem: How To Feel Like You Are Enough

Today, we are discussing how to feel like you are enough. This is extremely important because if we carry around the energy that we are inadequate, then we reinforce the self-fulfilling prophecy that we are not enough. This is because when we don’t get the outcomes we want, then we take that is further proof that we aren’t enough. It becomes easier to say, “You see? I knew I wasn’t good enough. Things don’t tend to go my way.” And with this attitude, we bring more of these outcomes into our lives almost like we are seeking them (well… because we are! It’s a subtle way of showing you are angry at life). That being said, do you currently feel like you are not enough in any area of your life that matters most to you? Are you enough around people? Are you enough around people you are attracted to? Key Areas I Felt I Wasn’t Good Enough Included: – I didn’t think I was attractive. This made me hesitant in approaching the women I was into. – I thought I wasn’t muscular enough, therefore people don’t take me seriously and don’t see me as valuable in social settings or sports. – I didn’t think I was interesting or funny enough, so people found me boring and didn’t want to friends with me. So, where do you feel like you aren’t enough? Transition Point When I finally accepted something that we all know but don’t always accept- that feeling like we are not enough is something we do to ourselves and is not caused by the world, our circumstances, or a condition we think we are stuck in, I began actively and intentionally building my own source of feeling enough and significant. Key Points – If you want to feel like you are enough, then you must stop “Needing” things and start to want or prefer them instead. For example, instead of needing approval from people, shift your energy to, “I prefer that they approve of me, however, I’m good either way.” You don’t need their approval. If they don’t like you, you are awesome as you are anyway. – To really dig out this part of you that feel like you are not enough, create a list of areas you feel insufficient in. Identify this behavior in yourself, then track down where this energy is in your body to let it go. This may sound weird to you if you haven’t done much meditation before where you pay attention to the feelings inside your body, however, you know that feeling of “I’m not enough.” What I’m referring to is find where that feeling is in your body and send it acceptance, presence, and love. Talk to it, calm it, and soothe it. Don’t abandon this part of you. It just needs your focus and empathy to be let go. Success On The Other Side Having applied this into my life, I now truly believe that I have plenty of value to give others in any area of my life because I’ve let go of the energy inside me, telling me I wasn’t enough. Rather than feeling like “I’m not enough,” I now struggle sometimes with, “Did I give enough?” Isn’t that crazy? There’s always another level of growth. The important point is to make progress. And you CAN feel enough. It’s an inside game. Your Challenge – Identify 3 areas you feel you aren’t enough in. For me, it could have been 1) I’m not attractive enough 2) I’m not muscular enough 3) I’m not interesting or funny enough. – Then, find that energy in your body, and feel it to let it go. You don’t need more. You don’t need to achieve more. You can love yourself right now just as you are. You are enough. Whatever areas you identify, you’ve got this. You can handle this. This is just the beginning of an epic transformation to owning your significance, value, and worth. I love you and want to see you succeed. Until we speak again, you were born to be real, not to be perfect. So go out there and be who you are. I’ll talk to you soon. To maximize confidence in every area of your life at rocket speed, get your (FREE) ebook, "5 Steps To Break The Anxiety Barrier" here.