How to Instantly Improve Your Eye Contact

Do you struggle to hold eye contact with someone attractive walking passed you? What about with someone you find popular or maybe intimidating or otherwise just powerful? When we master eye contact, we are able to become more engaging and interesting in conversations since eye contact is essential to gain peoples’ attention. Furthermore, people will love your confident and relaxed gaze. Today, I’ll be sharing 3 majorly powerful shifts you can apply today to start feeling way more relaxed and confident holding eye contact with people- no matter how attractive or popular. How to Instantly Improve Your Eye Contact 1. Practice looking in the mirror at your eyes. If we don’t like how we look due to thinking we’re unattractive, not liking certain emotions our facial expression shows like sadness or anxiety, or maybe we just think we look awkward, then we won’t want to hold eye contact with others to hide the way we look. By letting all negative self-critical thoughts come up while looking in the mirror at our eyes, those toxic thoughts will start to go away. By practicing looking at yourself in the mirror, you’ll start to love and accept how you look, which will translate over into being comfortable having others look at you in the eyes. 2. Practice looking people in the eyes. Start with holding eye contact for 10 seconds, and then gradually do it longer. This doesn’t mean you are glued to their eyes every second, it just means you look away when it feels natural to, and then you come back to holding eye contact when it makes sense to. The only way out of fear is through the fear. By exposing yourself to the discomfort of holding eye contact, you will start to break out of your fear of eye contact into establishing a relaxed, comfortable, confident gaze that people love. 3. Gain Eye Contact Perspective. So, what’s true- do people like or loathe people looking them in the eyes? To answer this, let’s first ask this. Do you like it when people aren’t looking at you when you are talking? What if you were expressing something you were interested in and the person you were talking to was looking away from you? How would that feel? It wouldn’t feel good. We love it when people give us focus, attention, and their curiosity. People actually do love eye contact. It makes them feel loved. So you don’t have to worry about people not liking your eye contact as long you aren’t doing something blatantly weird like staring at them with big open eyes and making a weird face or something. Just look at people with a warm, nice, comfortable glance, and people will love it. Results of Mastering Eye Contact –> People will love the focus, attention, and curiosity you give them. –> People will want to keep talking with you because you make them feel important and comfortable. –> People will find you more engaging and interesting because of how confident you look. Awesome! Apply that in your life this week. Until we speak again, you were born to be real, not to be perfect. So go out there and be who you are. I’ll talk to you soon.  To maximize confidence in every area of your life at rocket speed, get your (FREE) ebook, "5 Steps To Break The Anxiety Barrier" here.