08: Tips for Coping with the Holidays as a Single Parent

In today’s episode, Dr. Robbin Rockett discusses the upcoming holiday season and how to move through this season successfully. This time of year can bring up many emotions - loneliness, loss and even jealousy. There’s no reason to face this time alone, so it’s time to get some resources and support for your holiday season.     Some aspects of the holiday season that we will discuss today are: How to deal with your emotions What happens when the holidays involves your ex-spouse How to make your children have a normal holiday       In this show Dr. Rockett discusses:   At 4 years post divorce, how it still affects her What are 3 things you cannot live without this holiday season Ask the same question of your children and then figure out how to incorporate all of them into your holiday celebration Get real about what feels meaningful to you and your children Make giving back a part of your holiday season - it helps your heart and is a great example to your children Help your children as they purchase a gift for the other parent Are you co-parenting your children without conflict? Consider a joint celebration/event as long as it is a safe space for everyone If you are still in a place of conflict, it’s not a good idea to spend time together at the holiday If you are considering joint holiday events, discuss it with your ex first, not the kids Stay thoughtful and mindful of all parties, while still reflecting your boundaries Plan ahead to have a support system around you when emotions are overwhelming Continuing to make time for adequate self-care is critical       You can create your own new normal for the holiday season. Make it about you and creating rituals and events that support you and make you feel good. Know that you are not alone and we are always here to support you!