JUDGMENT

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We come together each day to know the truth, live on spiritual principle and align with universal law. We also come together as a community in soul society, committed to enlightenment, empowerment and entrepreneurship. So today I wanna talk to you about judgment letting go of judgment. So I don't work with couples, but I've been asked many times to work with couples. They come to me and they say, you know, we want spiritual counseling. We're having problems. And we need, you know, someone to delegate and, and figure out what's going on. And when they come to me, they, I basically tell 'em, I won't work with you together. I will work with you individually and birth your truth and get clarity and, and have you understand what's going on for you and deal with your traumas and so on and so forth. But I won't work with you together. (00:59): And it just doesn't work. So one day a couple came to me and they wanted me to work with both of them. And I told 'em that same thing. I won't work with you guys together, but I'll work with you individually, deal with your traumas, get clear of what your values are, your commitments, and getting clear of how that would work together. And they were really annoyed. They were like, why we don't understand how we ever gonna fix something. When, when, when it's completely apart. I said, well, it just never amounts to anything. I I've watched it over and over again. And it usually actually just compounds the arguments. So they got a little bit more annoyed. And so I just thought I'd kind of help. 'em guiding through of why. So I started asking them, you know, what is it that you, what, what, what do you fight about? (01:41): You know, and basically one of the co one of the, one of the couples said that they always felt like the other person just never listened that they, it was, they were never coming from compassion. They're always trying to tell them what to do. And the other person, the woman, actually, she said, I just feel like I, I could never make 'em happy, no matter what I do. I never make 'em happy. And so this is the point is that they both were pointing the finger at the other person, right? So you are such a powerful, spiritual being. Everyone is so powerful that the moment you even consider anything, the moment you judge new and the moment, whatever you, you set the human vicious cycle and motion. The number one thing that creates all problems in all relationships is judging the other person and making them wrong. (02:32): And it literally, it, it is a backfire in system. So how do we deal with this? How do we deal with this? Right? So, first of all, when anyone comes, it doesn't matter if it's relationship, cuz all of life is a relationship, right? You judge everything, you judge life, you judge things, you judge people, you judge whatever. And if we feel like we are the effect of something, we, number one will disempower ourselves. For sure. Right? The extent to which we hand our power over to our relationship, the extent we hand our power and judge money or judge life or judge. Anyway, we instantaneously experience feeling disempowered and at the fact of that thing, right? And so as we're in anything in life where we're judging it, it is literally we're, we're creating our own hell. So say this couple or whatever. So you're, you're judging, uh, you know, your career, you're judging your boss. (03:22): You're judging whatever in life, the moment that you assign a negative meaning to what is or is not occurring or to that person or thing or circumstances, you instantly experience a negative experience. Right? And so that's how powerful you are. And so there is a difference between judging and choosing to create something new, right? There's a very big distinction there. I can sit and judge somebody or something and just judge it and complain and, and feel the negative effect of that. And then I can also listen and go. This isn't a line with my truth. You know, whatever's going on in your relationship. Whatever's going on in whatever circumstance of your life. Judgment is a good thing. When it's used to actually just create what you do wanna create like this isn't working, let's adjust. I'm gonna adjust, not looking to the other person, the circumstances, anything. (04:16): How do I wanna create from nothing knowing that this is what it is. This person I'm in relationship is who they are. The world is what it is right now. The, my boss is whoever he is right now. I have only a power when I pull it back and I go, who do I need to be? How do I need to change? How do I need to show up? Or maybe this environment just is for me, whatever that is. Right? So judgment is a really tricky thing because when we judge, we literally imprint into our own subconscious mind, this feeling of being the effect, that's really what judgment is. It's feeling like you're the effect of something out there and that you're not the cause. So all of life basically is an entrapment. Judgment is an entrapment of life. I in that really unlocking the prison door into neutrality. (05:08): So all of life as you, if you're judging is just gonna keep bringing crap and everything for the judge, until you realize that you've got to neutral, you've gotta have it neutral. You've gotta have equanimity around it. Right? And once you come into that ne that neutral state of realizing it is what it is. You no longer judge. And you close the gap of suffering, which is accepting people, places and things as they are. And you close that gap in suffering. And when you accept and you stay neutral, then you know your freedom of choice. And so what is it that you wanna choose? You know, so as this couple began to do their inner work, they both did their separate work. They both dealt with traumas around relationship and what their belief systems were about love and not being worthy and all that stuff. (05:57): And they got down into what their core values were. What are your core values? Are, do you guys align in your core values, right? And then getting clear of what they're really committed to individually. And then I, they, you know, most couples, they have a choice, right? Most people are not identical, nor would we ever want everybody to be identical, but then they have the choice. Do they do their lives? Can they overlap? Can they both be committed? Both have the same values in both whatever, and still stay in peace and create joyful lives together. And I've had couples that have, I've had couples that haven't out of that. But the point is is that when you stop judging, when you start accepting people in places as they are, then you have choice. Then you get to look at it. And as is it, and have a, a power to say, do I wanna create with this person, do I wanna create in this circumstances, accepting my boss as he is, does this work for me? (06:53): Can I still create and be empowered in the situation or no? Can you only, are you still, you can't, you're not able to keep peace and you're not able to be fully empowered. That's where people begin to awaken from judgment. Judging is basically stating to yourself, your subconscious mind and the universe, that you're the effect of something that you are of less power over that thing to create and innovate through that. So expanding your thoughts perspective, liberates you from the chains of suffering. When belief systems alter, you start to flow. You freely flow in that, that zone, that flow, and you naturally have a journey into this beautiful state, recognizing enlightenment is not a destination, but it's a, it's a consummate of all experiences. It's delivered you to freedom that when you expand your consciousness and know that you get to accept and then create that there's this divine connection of truth and happiness, of course, you know, judgment. (07:55): One of the greatest, you know, teachers, I think of helping us move past judgment was Marcus radius bracket who was famed. He's a Greek emperor who he, you know, was in some of the greatest battles like bloodshed battles. And he wrote a book called meditations. And can you imagine, can you imagine this, this warrior, right? He's in a gruesome, gruesome physical massacres and found peace within like how could you not judge and be the effect and feel like life sucks. I'm judging life. I'm judging this situation. I'm judging, you know, all the stuff around a war, gruesome massacres, right? And he found this piece within. He said that he, you know, he, he described of how to find the, and persevere with continuity and conflict by following nature, as a source of guidance and inspiration, he was one of the first leaders known to man who spoke of the collective approach to consciousness and specified how important discipline and focus are as well as active pursuit of being a good person. (09:02): So when we judge, it's not about us, it's it really it's like stop putting the blame around somebody else, the circumstances, whatever it is, a war zone, a marriage that's going in disarray and start looking at who the grace within the grace of staying and principle. And when I train spiritual leaders, I train them in how to never make anyone wrong. Doesn't mean they keep themselves in environments or relationships that don't work, but never make anyone wrong. Seeing everybody for their divinity, right? If you can't hold them and know, this person is a great person, you don't belong in. They don't, they don't, you don't deserve to have them in your life. Right? How do you do this? How do you stay in this neutral state and know that it's all for your growth, it's all for you to birth more and more of your truth. (09:52): And if you're in a situation where you feel like you have to judge, because you just, it's just, you just can't find peace in it. Then you gotta listen to that and know that that means you're not in the right place, or you gotta adjust your beliefs and come present and, and really enjoy exactly where you are. And so the, in this, I just know that the truth is the moment you assign a positive or negative meaning to anything you instantaneously experience a positive or negative feeling judgment can be good, or it can be bad. Judgment is judgment. Just know that you are that powerful. That the moment you assign a meaning positive negative, you're gonna experience a positive, negative, meaning. That's the power. That's the choice you have. Your mind is the most powerful weapon you have. However, within it is the great eternal battle you are in the greatest battle you will ever fight. (