#19(S2) BEYOND CONDOLENCES: SUPPORTING OUR GRIEVING FRIENDS with psychotherapist & grief counsellor Andrea Warnick

Beyond condolences, how can we best support a grieving friend? Grief counsellor Andrea Warnick tells us what to say and do, and what to avoid. For example: yes, use the “D” word; and do not try to “fix” it. The grieving process is not linear. Rather, it is like a squiggly line. So what should a good friend do? Most importantly, “show up”!   References & Links Andrea Warnick * AndreaWarnick.com – Grief counselling – https://andreawarnick.com/ * Andrea’s affiliations * The Dr. Jay Children’s Grief Program- https://drjaychildrensgriefcentre.ca/ * Camp Erin (overnight bereavement camp) – https://drjaychildrensgriefcentre.ca/programs/camp-erin/ * SickKids Centre for Community Mental Health – https://www.sickkidscmh.ca/ * Ontario’s Children & Youth Grief Network – https://www.childrenandyouthgriefnetwork.com/ * The Canadian Virtual Hospice (CVH) – http://www.virtualhospice.ca/en_US/Main+Site+Navigation/Home.aspx * KidsGrief.ca- https://kidsgrief.ca/ Other Resources & References * BOOKS * Atul Gawande, “Being Mortal” – https://amzn.to/2Qa5kRc * Megan Devine, ‘It’s OK That You’re Not OK” – https://amzn.to/2QdYgmz * Brené Brown, “The Gifts of Imperfection” – https://amzn.to/2wa8ESY * TEDTalk – * Brené Brown’s “The Power of Vulnerability” – https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en * PODCASTS * “Terrible, Thanks for Asking” – https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/american-public-media/terrible-thanks-for-asking * Esther Perel, “Where do we begin” – https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/where-should-we-begin-with-esther-perel/id1237931798 * OTHER * Kenneth Doka & Terry Martin, Instrumental vs Intuitive grieving styles – https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-and-gender-a-preamble/ and http://www.giftoflifeinstitute.org/instrumental-and-intuitive-grievers/ * Megan Devine newsletter – https://www.refugeingrief.com/newsletter-thanks/ Talk About Talk * Weekly Email Blog – https://talkabouttalk.com/blog/#newsletter-signup * Andrea – [email protected]     Interview Transcript Dr. Andrea Wojnicki: Thank you very much for taking the time. So, I thought I would start by asking you about Elizabeth Kubler Ross’s five stage model, because when I think about a friend or a family member who’s going through grief, my mind goes there. Andrea Warnick: Absolutely.