The Critical Difference Between Pity and Love

Letting people be themselves is mistakenly understood as a form of love because we don't like to receive feedback. So instead of getting involved in other peoples' messes, we resort to pitying others because it abdicates ourselves from the moral responsibility to help them. But unlike pity which seeks relief, love is committed to the greater good of others. Though  people lack the courage to deal with personal responsibility to a point where cowardice to act is systemic, Jesus addresses the woman taken in adultery with love and courage.