A to Z Quick Tok 43 | Would you rather have a friend who is a great listener or a friend who always gives excellent advice?

In this episode of The A to Z English Podcast, Jack is joined by May, Layla, and Hendrick as they discuss the following Would you rather? question:Would you rather have a friend who is a great listener or a friend who always gives excellent advice?Transcript:00:00:01JackWelcome to the A-Z English podcast, where Jack and Social take you on a journey from learning the basics to mastering the nuances of the English language. Our podcast is designed for non-native speakers who are looking to improve their English skills in a fun and interactive way. Each episode covers a wide range of.00:00:22JackTopics from grammar and vocabulary to slang and culture to help you navigate the English speaking world with ease.00:00:31JackWelcome to the.00:00:32JackA-Z English podcast My name is Jack and I'm one of the hosts of the podcast and I'm here with three of my good friends. May Leila and Hendrick. They are helping me out today.00:00:44JackAnd sitting in for social and we're going to do something a little bit different today, guys, this today I'm going to hand the controls over to May and she is going to surprise me, Layla and Hendrick with a would you rather question. So this is I have no idea what it is. I don't know what it is.00:01:07JackIt's a total surprise, so as you.00:01:10JackListen, I'm. I'm. I'm.00:01:11JackLearning just as you guys hear it, along with me. So may you have control. What do you got for us?00:01:19MayAlright. Thank you, Jed. Uh, today I have.00:01:22MayWith your other questions for everyone, and the question is.00:01:28MayWould you rather have a?00:01:31MayFriend who is a great listener.00:01:34MayOr would you like to have a friend who always provide excellent advice?00:01:42MaySo what do you guys?00:01:45JackOK. So let me just make sure I've got this. Uh, would you rather have a friend who's a great listener or a friend who always gives excellent advice?00:01:56MayYes, Jack, you're right.00:01:58JackOK, but you can't have both. You can't have both.00:02:03MayUnfortunately not. That can only choose one.00:02:07JackSo so my friend gives great advice, but he never listens to me or he listens to me really well, but he gives me terrible advice.00:02:17MayOr maybe he doesn't advise you as.00:02:18JackOr he doesn't give me any advice.00:02:20JackHe's like, what do you think you should do?00:02:22MayOr maybe he'll.00:02:23MaySay you do whatever you like.00:02:25JackYeah, yeah.00:02:27MaySo which is the best for you, Jeff?00:02:29JackAll right, I'm going.00:02:30JackTo go last, I'm going to let.00:02:32JackI'm going to I'm.00:02:32JackGoing to go backwards here. I'm going to let.00:02:34JackHendrick go first, Hendrick. What do you think?00:02:34May1st is.00:02:38HendrickWell, to be honest, it's quite tough, but I have discussed this kind of topic like 2 days ago with my friend because you know my friend told me that he doesn't have like the close friend that can share his story with story because and you know.00:02:57HendrickSometimes it's not easy when you.00:02:59HendrickHave a you know.00:03:00HendrickLike a lot of problems and.00:03:02HendrickThen you have to.00:03:02HendrickWorry them in yourself because it's going to.00:03:04HendrickBe like a.00:03:05MayPoison for you. So I think for really.00:03:11HendrickIt's more better to have like a friend or you know, he or she is a good listener for me. Yeah, because sometimes when for me, like when I have a lot of problems, I just need like a friend that I can so I can share my story together. I don't maybe I don't need that.00:03:31HendrickPrice, but I just need, you know, like the the the person to listen to me at least. Like I believe that, you know like.00:03:41HendrickLike they're they're still, there is still a person that cares about me. Yeah. So I just need, like, a good listener.00:03:51MaySo you just need a friend to listen to you most of the time. That's sweet.00:03:54HendrickExactly, at least. At least it.00:03:58HendrickCan reduce my stress.00:04:00HendrickYes. Or, you know, like for me from.00:04:02HendrickLike depression or something like that.00:04:04MayYeah, OK, but this is.00:04:08LaylaYeah. For me, honestly, as you know, guys usually I don't know, but I feel like usually women like to talk to someone more than others, give her advice and.00:04:25LaylaSome so maybe.00:04:31LaylaThat resolve or they try to fix your problem. So usually I want to talk and others listen to me, especially when I in when I'm in very hard. The situation, as Hendrick mentioned, I need to.00:04:51LaylaWill deal or maybe release my stress. My sadness. I know it's not good, just.00:04:59LaylaTo talk and others other listen to you. You need some advice on good advice, but in this case I I have to ship this. I have to choose only one thing, so I will go with the to have a good, a good or maybe great listener.00:05:20MaySo most of the time you will be like.00:05:23MayHey, you just listen to me. Don't say anything.00:05:30LaylaYeah, so like this.00:05:34MayI think Jeff will have a different answer from us. What do you think, Jeff?00:05:39JackWell, I think Leila's right. I mean, I think that like if you ever read the book, men are from Mars, women are from Venus, Men want solutions.00:05:49JackAnd women want people to listen to them. Hendrick. I don't. I'm not sure I understand your answer, but because you chose to listen. But I'm joking. I'm joking.00:06:03JackI think you write like Layla's right? Like just having someone listen to you is is like therapy. You know, just someone to like, actually and hear you and and let you kind of vent your feelings and everything but.00:06:20JackI don't really care about that. So what I want is I want like really good advice so that I can use it to make my podcast better or make some money or something. So even though my friend never listens to me, every once in a while he'll drop a little diamond piece of advice.00:06:41JackLike little gold, you know little gold bricks that I can pick up and I can use them. And so in that case, I'm gonna go with a friend. Who?00:06:52JackMaybe doesn't listen to me very well, but drops some really good advice every once in a while that I can use to make my life better. And I'll let my audience members be my listeners. So I'll just do the podcast and everybody can listen to me. But my friend can give me advice.00:07:13JackSo I'm gonna go against Hendrick.00:07:16JackAnd Layla's answer for this one.00:07:19LaylaOK.00:07:20MayWhen you just drop a head.00:07:22MayThen will pop up with. The solution. Is that what you're trying to say? Ohh OK.00:07:25JackExactly. If I'm some kind of difficult problem and be like, hey man, what am I gonna do? He's like, you do AB and C and everything will be fine. I'm like, great, I'll do it and.00:07:35MaySo that.00:07:38MayThat is interesting to.00:07:39MayKnow yeah, you love solution more than everything, yeah.00:07:41JackYes, that's right. Cause I venture from Mars, I'm from Mars, so we like solutions, yeah.00:07:49MayOK.00:07:49HendrickYeah. So I think Leilani, we are from Phoenix, yeah.00:07:54JackYou're from Venus? Yeah, I'm from Mars. I'm. You guys are from Venus. Wait, what about?00:07:59JackAre you from Mars?00:08:00MayI think I will be on the east side. So for me I need people.00:08:10MayTo listen to me.00:08:11MayMost of the time.00:08:13MayLike you understand, the feeling that that is.00:08:17MayBe too tough or too hard and no one would like to listen to us. OK, the feeling is so stressful and we just.00:08:30MayWanted to cry when nobody wants to spend time with you. Listen to whatever you want to say and for me, I most of the time I don't need any solution. I just need to express my feeling. How sad I am. And maybe and.00:08:50MaySomeone cheated me. I just wanted them.00:08:52MayTo know how.00:08:53MayI feel so. Who doesn't know? Just sit down and listen.00:08:56MayMe and trust me, the person who.00:09:01MayWe meet the person who's a great listener while they are listening without we realizing.00:09:09MayThey were also.00:09:11MaySome solution like instant solution like that, so we don't need a a person who just tell us what to do from A-Z enough a great listener from so that's my idea.00:09:25HendrickAll right, all right.00:09:29JackHendrick, why don't you jump in?00:09:30JackWhat do you think?00:09:32HendrickYeah, I.00:09:32HendrickMean like?00:09:33HendrickFor me, if I have if I have.00:09:35HendrickLike a a problem. And then if I have to choose like a friend and then if if it becomes like a friend that he or she is not a good listener.00:09:44HendrickI think I.00:09:45HendrickI don't want to share my story with.00:09:47HendrickThose kind of people, because I mean like sometimes.00:09:51HendrickYou know like.00:09:52HendrickPeople, when they have a lot of.00:09:54HendrickProblems, they just.00:09:54HendrickNeed a listener.00:09:55HendrickTo to listen to.00:09:57HendrickTheir story. So that's why. And I also believe like a lot of people like did the phrase and then they just killed themselves because no one listened to them. No one listened to them.00:10:05MayYeah, you're right.00:10:07MayBecause nobody wants to listen completely, they they are repeating the same thing.00:10:12MayAgain and again.00:10:13MayBut that is what they think.00:10:16HendrickYeah, and also.00:10:16MayIf you guys could you guys?00:10:17JackRepeat that one more time. I wasn't listen.00:10:20HendrickOhh really so.00:10:24JackI'm just kidding. Yeah.00:10:25MayPlease tell me the solution the solution project.00:10:28HendrickYeah. So.00:10:32HendrickYeah, I mean like as I said before like, you know, like a lot of people like when they depress and then they decided to kill themselves because because they don't have like a friend or like people that listen to their.00:10:44HendrickSorry. Yeah. So they just need like, people that listen to their story. That's it and.00:10:50HendrickYou know it's not.00:10:50HendrickGood. Yeah. And I I think like it's not good when you you have like a store a problem and then you want to start with a friend and then your friend is like he or she is not a good listener and then you know like.00:11:03MayLike running away, you know, sometimes.00:11:04HendrickYeah, and yeah, and when you want to, for example, like when you want, you tell your story and then see or see like try, try to tell about their stories also does not.00:11:16MayYeah, it shows.00:11:16HendrickReally good. Yeah.00:11:19HendrickThose those not. Uh yeah, they, they.00:11:20MaySelfish, right? Right.00:11:22HendrickAre not like good listeners.00:11:24HendrickYeah, even even when they even they have.00:11:26HendrickLike good advice, I think that's.00:11:28MayNot that's not good.00:11:30MayYeah, they should listen because I feel they should listen. Visit first.00:11:34MayAnd then then they can make up their home.00:11:37MayWhether they should say anything.00:11:41JackYeah, be quiet fast. To fast to listen and slow to speak. Right. Isn't that the expression? Quick to listen. Slow to speak. Yeah. You guys changed my mind. I my you know, you're so emotionally healthy the three.00:11:50HendrickYes. Yeah.00:11:59JackOf you are so emotionally.00:12:01JackHealthy. And then there's me with my black heart. You know, my little tiny black heart? Barely.00:12:07HendrickYou are very good person day.00:12:09MayActually you can speak with your mind.00:12:12MayI don't see anything wrong in the.00:12:14MayBecause of course people need solution as well so.00:12:18LaylaI think I think.00:12:19JackIt's right though. I mean, I think I think you're right. Like a real true friend is somebody that actually listens to you and hears you and. And that's the kind of relationship that a healthy relationship that people need and want and look for when they're choosing their friends. So I you guys are definitely right. 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