Ep #198:Why consequences aren’t working

Many parents give a consequence expecting it will stop the behavior and are surprised when it doesn't.  Giving an effective consequence isn't easy. In fact, for a consequence to work, it needs to include five key elements: Immediacy, Size, Frequency, Importance, and Varied. The best way to teach a child isn't through consequences. Because consequences focus on the negative, they can damage your relationships with your child and cause them to have issues with self-esteem and self-doubt. The best way to get a child to create lasting change is through rewards. Rewards give a child power and encouragement to change because it focuses on what they will receive. Rewards build relationships and set your child up for success.  For more information about giving consequences or rewards, visit SmarterParenting.com